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Coping with BPD? rambling post.

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danedsmh

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My best friend was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder a couple of months ago, I feel that she is not coping well, if at all. She has told me just recently that she feels that its all too much and she no longer wants to be here. She has 3 children and works full time so seeing a counsellor for 2 hours twice a week, like she has been offered, is not always doable. She was told they could either give her antidepressants or anti anxiety tablets but she refused.

I am basically just looking for someone to point me in the right direction of some kind of coping mechanism for dealing with it. Like everyone she has good days and bad days, recently things seem to be getting worse for her and its killing me to sit back and watch as i don't know what to suggest. I have struggled with my own mental health issues and am currently in the process of gaining a mental health qualification but i feel i am too close to her to know how to help.

I'm sorry for the rambling post and if it doesn't make much sense, i just don't know how to help her.
 
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My best friend was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder a couple of months ago, I feel that she is not coping well, if at all. She has told me just recently that she feels that its all too much and she no longer wants to be here. She has 3 children and works full time so seeing a counsellor for 2 hours twice a week, like she has been offered, is not always doable. She was told they could either give her antidepressants or anti anxiety tablets but she refused.

I am basically just looking for someone to point me in the right direction of some kind of coping mechanism for dealing with it. Like everyone she has good days and bad days, recently things seem to be getting worse for her and its killing me to sit back and watch as i don't know what to suggest. I have struggled with my own mental health issues and am currently in the process of gaining a mental health qualification but i feel i am too close to her to know how to help.

I'm sorry for the rambling post and if it doesn't make much sense, i just don't know how to help her.
First of all, I wish there were more friends like you! Rest assured you are not rambling at all, your post makes perfect sense.
My immediate concerns would be two fold. First, I would suggest she really needs to take some medication which could reduce her emotions whilst she learns some coping mechanisms. Secondly, I would suggest a councillor would be little use to her. You really need to see a Psychologist if you suffer from BPD, as the therapy is quite different. What helped reduce my suffering was a book called Mindfulness for DBT by Blaise Aguirre and Gillian Galen. It explains all you need to know and how to cope with the illness.
 
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EstherRose94

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What’s her reasoning for not wanting medication? I agree it can help a lot. I’m taking a low dose antidepressant and it along with therapy has helped lift me out of the funk I was in
 
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