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Constant worry and feelings of dread.



New member
Jun 30, 2019
Over 20 years ago I was involved in an altercation with a group of guys. Several of them did some time and I testified against them. Without me really knowing this situation has played a part in my anxiety issues.

Over the years I have bumped into a member of the group on a few occasions and every time I see him he scares the hell out of me. He is a huge bloke and a very intimidating person, he openly says he hates me because of the past.

Despite this I have pretty much put the whole situation behind me, I have moved on and even though he will always intimidate me I feel ok about the situation because I can always get away from him.

However lately I can’t get him out of my mind. I have a trip abroad to Ibiza with some friends soon and all I can think of is that he will be there, he will be on one of the things we we have planned and that he is going to start a fight and be his usual intimidating self and ruin the trip.

I keep running every scenario over in my head. I know the likelihood of him being there is incredibly low. The probability of us bumping into each other is 1000s/1, I keep telling myself this but I just can’t stop torturing myself about it and saying what if! I can’t turn it off and it’s driving me crazy.

Please help.


Well-known member
Dec 26, 2015
Hello Castle12 really sorry that this is still troubling you. It would be best if you start to actually Stop yourself mid stream each time you have these thoughts….it sounds like a habit that you have gotten into and just cant seem to move on from it.

And like all bad habits we have to start to let go of them in order to not get lost to them. it will take a while but then you have been doing this for a long while. I have heard that it takes 30 days to change a habit but I think it can take more than that.

And I have pushed on and its been several months before I realised that I was no longer doing this unhelpful habit. In fact I had forgotten about it