- May 28, 2016
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. I only recently recently found out that he had a serious depressive episode not long before we got together 7 years ago, and attempted suicide at that time. Since we have been together there has been ups and downs but nothing I considered beyond the normal emotional roller coaster of figuring out life during your early twenties. His history of depression has recently surfaced as he is now experiencing another episode. I feel very confused when I look back at our 7 years together as depresssion has not been a defining factor in our relationship, but I know it will be going forward. I feel a deep sense of mourning for what our life was like just a few months ago, does this just make me selfish and not helpful in this situation? It's also hard because my family do not consider depression a serious illness and think people should simply "cheer up". I certainly don't think like this but their attitude and disapproval adds another level of stress to the situation.