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Compulsive liar....

B

Bad bud

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Hello, I have a question open to any one, but first I have to tell the story.

I am recently married and my wife's mother is a compulsive liar. I don't want to fall in to the stereotype of a son in law who doesn't get on with his mother in law, but it's happening.

Every one knows her as a intelligent, social and happy person, but I have grown to know much more about her. To everyone else she is a successful pathologist working for the MOD with 3phd's and dabbles in property and investment.

None of this is true...

Her money comes from stealing the identity of family members and taking loans out in their names (plus God knows what else), she never worked for the MOD and doesn't have any PHD's. no one seemed to know this or acknowledged this was happening until I came along ( some still don't know as I have only told the people who really need to know). She systematically undermines her daughters confidence with emotional blackmail, vague suicide threats and accuses her of abandoning her. She has apparently had cancer and still has ongoing problems, but I don't know if that's true......what I can say about that is that it's another card that get played whenever she is challenged about what's she is doing.

After her vailed suicide threats to her daughter she can be seen the next day with other people acting like nothing has happened and life is brilliant!

I have seen her destroy both her ex husbands reputation with accusations of child abuse and neglect.

She tried to suggest aggressive towards her when I confronted her about all of the above ( I knew this would happen so a secretly recorded the conversation which I am no proud to say). I tried to approach her like I would some one who was in serious need of intervention and help, but now she has just a started ramping up the emotional blackmail and manipulation which my wife.

I only intervened because my wife is having round the clock panick attacks and I don't know how much more she can take. I can see her mother working her way back in to her life in a bid to control her.

what should I do? Have any of you had this problem? Have you been in my mother in laws position? If so how did you get better? Have you been in mine or my wife's position? If so what did you do?
 
Unique1

Unique1

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Hi BadBud.

Wanted to :welcome: you to the forum.

I read your post and it sounds to me from what your saying, like a horrible position to be in. I am afraid I cannot speak from experience of the things you mention. What you say of your mother in law would make me want to run a mile, but that's me, I just could not cope with someone ,who, by what you say is so deceitful. Although I appreciate you are in a tricky situation.

Hope someone comes along who can perhaps give you some tips or experiences of similar challenges.

I wish you well and really hope the forum goes some way to being helpful to you, even if it's just writing things down , sometimes that helps me to see ways forward.

Unique1 xx
 
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Thank you for taking the time to read through my frantically typed post Unique1 and thanks for the kind words. What I have written is a very condensed version of events, but this is all happening. I have dealt with mental illness in my own life and my own family, but this I can't understand.
 
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