• Share. Be Supported. Recover.

    We are a friendly, safe community supporting each other's mental health. We are open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Complete Loss of Interest in Life, Please Help Me

A

Ascendant

New member
Joined
Dec 30, 2019
Messages
3
Location
US
In short, I have struggled with depression off and on all my life. However, this year, it has become literally crippling. While I am doing my best to try to fight it, nothing is working.

My depression was exacerbated because of issues with my children and with a breakup earlier this year. I was engaged and thought she was "the one," then it all fell apart. And the issues with my kids is requiring me to go through a court battle.

My problem is that I can't find anything that interests me to pull me out of it. I have made an effort to go to a couple different Meetup groups and socialize more, but it isn't helping. I am socializing more with other people outside of that as well, but it isn't helping.

A big part of my dilemma is that all of my passions and aspirations are unreasonable. Like some people dream of being president, or of being famous. I dream of things like being a starship caption, or of being a wizard. All of my true aspirations and dreams are sci-fi or fantasy in nature. There is literally nothing in this world that interests me enough to where I am very passionate about it. Life in general just bores me, but I don't know how to fix it? I mean sure, I can ready fantasy books, watch movies or TV series, but afterwards, I'm right back to a life that I am completely bored of.

I know a loss of interest in things is a part of depression, but this is more so just my personality. I have never been able to pursue my "dreams" in life, because none of them are pursuable, as they are all fantasy-based as I previously stated. So, if anyone has any suggestions on how to get out of a depression caused by a complete lack of interest in anything in this reality, please let me know.
 
D

Di9nysus

Well-known member
Joined
Nov 27, 2019
Messages
195
Location
Ayrshire
Hi Ascendant,

Sorry to read about the year you have had.

As least you recognise your dreams are unattainable.

I am on the same boat about losing interests and am doing the "socialising" thing which helps sometimes but not others.

Have you spoken to a doctor/councellor or friends/family about how you have been feeling lately?

Di9
 
A

Ascendant

New member
Joined
Dec 30, 2019
Messages
3
Location
US
Yea, every once in a while the socializing does help me as well, but lately, it hasn't been doing much of any good either.

I do have a counselor I meet with every once in a while, mainly due to an abusive relationship I dealt with years back and the circumstances with my children. I have done what she suggested as far as getting out more, getting more exercise, and socializing more. It's not doing any good.

I have spent hours researching methods online as well to no avail. I just can't "force" myself to be interested in things when I'm not, and no idea how to fix that. I can't find any solutions online.

I mean I would never consider suicide or anything like that, especially with my children. But, a lot of the day, I'm just wondering besides my children, what's the point of being here? I feel completely purposeless and pointless, and everything I am trying is to no avail. I get to the point where I don't even know what to do with myself at times, because none of what I do even matters to me most the time. And it doesn't help that I don't get to see my kids very often thanks to a spiteful ex and me not having enough for an attorney yet (hoping within the next 2-3months, but not helping me now).

My biggest obstacle currently is just finding some way to find things in life to be passionate about again.
 
sunset547544

sunset547544

Well-known member
Joined
Feb 27, 2016
Messages
1,159
Location
UK, London
Recovery from your condition can become your new interest in life. There are limitless areas ready for you to investigate. A great place to start is here where you can learn about other peoples experiences with similar problems and connect with them.
 
Zackthemaniac

Zackthemaniac

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 16, 2019
Messages
1,623
Location
North Carolina
Try new things that relate to your hobbies like collecting or gaming. Make costumes and go to cons to socialize with others. Try writing stories about your life if you could do these things. Or try discovering new hobbies or interests. The main thing is to keep yourself busy.
 
A

Ascendant

New member
Joined
Dec 30, 2019
Messages
3
Location
US
Try new things that relate to your hobbies like collecting or gaming. Make costumes and go to cons to socialize with others. Try writing stories about your life if you could do these things. Or try discovering new hobbies or interests. The main thing is to keep yourself busy.

Thank you for your feedback. I think those are great ideas - which is why I already tried them, regretfully to no avail. I went to a con not too long ago. I absolutely loved it - lots of like-minded people at it. However, the people I did try to talk to lived so far away that friendships weren't an option, and as soon as I left the con, I was even more depressed than ever. The con was just a reminder to me that the type of world I *want* to live in is not the one that I live in, nor will it ever be (at least in this lifetime).

As far as keeping busy, I do try to. Another part of my problem lately though is that I don't have enough hours in a day. I do have a lot of different things I want to get done, whether for financial security (to support my children), or simply because they are things I at least enjoy a little at times. However, I never seem to have the time to get all the things done that I want to get done.
 
Top