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rape survivor

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It has been a while now, that I know that what I am experiencing, "delusion" wise.
And it is these creepy people from my past.
I was advised that by showing the perpetrators compassion it would go away.
And I know that any attempt by me, to reject the occurance, to say no, or stop, talking to me, or get away from me, as far as astral projection, it is literally, get out of my room.
and I can't take that advise..I know that these perpetrators get worse, because they are obsessed with me, and what I say about them, and want to live in an imaginary world, where we were friends, and they weren't trying to kill me at the time, and that victim wise, I'll finally come forward and put them to sleep at night, like a different statute was broken than attempted murder, verbal abuse, stalking..incompetence, and retardation.
in fact when I cry, and say get away from me, and fight back, making the apparitions, as uncomfortable as possible to be around me, they then try to play back the visual sound, over and over, till they get their message across, which is often felt physical battery of me, on a vital level.
so I have to say, I can't tolerate the alternatives either, because I cannot take it to court as rape, yet I have read books, that state that that is fundamental to how sexual harassment starts, the perpetrator watches porn, and wants his office mates, or students, to believe that it is something they want, instead of a family...love, or some creepy over lord? yet, I can't call rape crisis lines, because they are ignorant of easy materials, and only go to school, in non applicable overly technical jargon, that only says, the brain is tangible, cut it.
 
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LM1974

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You don't have to show compassion to people who abuse you. You need to show compassion to yourself.
All of your feelings of your past and present abusers are valid. It may be as in my case (although I was not raped) that my voice was not heard so it is important for you to try to at least hear your own voice.
Keeping a journal/ or if you like write an account of what they did to you.
you may have troubles if you are still in contact with those who abused you or people who enabled your abusers (I have this problem) it is better to stop contact with such people.
Look on YouTube about narcissistic personality disorder, as your abusers most likely have this.
There are many womens organisations that will give free therapy or counselling if you have been raped just google your area
Take care of yourself
 
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one-less

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You don't have to show compassion to people who abuse you. You need to show compassion to yourself.
All of your feelings of your past and present abusers are valid. It may be as in my case (although I was not raped) that my voice was not heard so it is important for you to try to at least hear your own voice.
Keeping a journal/ or if you like write an account of what they did to you.
you may have troubles if you are still in contact with those who abused you or people who enabled your abusers (I have this problem) it is better to stop contact with such people.
Look on YouTube about narcissistic personality disorder, as your abusers most likely have this.
There are many womens organisations that will give free therapy or counselling if you have been raped just google your area
Take care of yourself
Thank you for your post, it's helped me also even though I already knew/do some of these things. I have to keep reminding myself of the note of showing compassion for myself as I'm in an abusive situation also. I'm hoping that rape survivor is able to come back to reply and is safe... :goodluck:

Hugs to all :hug:
 
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LM1974

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To Oneless: That's ok, glad it helped someone., your post has also helped me.

Sorry you are in an abusive situation too, I know how horrible it is.

I do not practice what I preach as although not in contact with my childhood abuser I am in contact with those that enabled him. I think that is why I hear voices. I feel if I were to let go of all contact with these people I would stop being abused by the voices, but there are important things I would loose if I did that so I choose to put up with them. Whatever I choose I loose something.

you said you do things to remind yourself to be kind to yourself. Forgetfulness is common with me not wanting to see the reality of my situation but then the voices remind me indirectly.

Sorry if I have triggered anyone reading this
 
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