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Comforters for BPD?

midnightphoenix

midnightphoenix

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I read on another site that one of the criteria the professionals use for disagnosing BPD is whether someone has a "comfort object" and name comfort object

I'm thinking about it now ......... I remember telling the professionals about my girl Ebony (died in my arms nearly 2 years ago), was it likely the professionals was counting Ebony as my "comfort object" if theres any truth to that comfort object thing, even though she was my cat, my precious girlie?

idk ............ was it likelier that the professionals secretly hated me and wanted to punish me?

cause i deserve punishments
 
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I'm sure they didnt hate you
they are just sometimes bungling buffoons !
my passage through therapy
has been a mad hatters tea party
that I should be writing about really

now after 30 year I have found a good one !
she doesnt pretend to know things
that she doesn't know
having somewhere like this forum
or a support group
is very helpful to check out what is going on in therapy

Ebony was not an object !
 
Tawny

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Their lists and descriptions and assumptions are utter BS Lady Midnight, don't even bother reading that junk. The whole world has comfort objects.

My cat has a comfort object and she tries to kill it at the same time as cuddling it and licking it.

If you want to understand their generalisation (massive generalisation, like all people with schizophrenia have big feet), it probably means an object that you use as a replacement for a mother, like a toddler with a blankie. Sometimes this can continue into adulthood and a girl might wear her boyfriends sweater in bed whilst he is on holiday shagging other girls, to cling on to that support whilst it is not there. It might mean that kind of thing. I doubt all people with BPD are clingy and would wear a smelly man's sweater though.

You are perfect just the way you are.
 
midnightphoenix

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Their lists and descriptions and assumptions are utter BS Lady Midnight, don't even bother reading that junk. The whole world has comfort objects.

My cat has a comfort object and she tries to kill it at the same time as cuddling it and licking it.

If you want to understand their generalisation (massive generalisation, like all people with schizophrenia have big feet), it probably means an object that you use as a replacement for a mother, like a toddler with a blankie. Sometimes this can continue into adulthood and a girl might wear her boyfriends sweater in bed whilst he is on holiday shagging other girls, to cling on to that support whilst it is not there. It might mean that kind of thing. I doubt all people with BPD are clingy and would wear a smelly man's sweater though.

You are perfect just the way you are.
Willow has a comfort object - HER teddy

idk if they would decide she got bpd as well cause teddy her comforter
 
Tawny

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I wasn't behaving good when i wrote that post :(
I should not use swear words
I should be more mature
Sometimes the real me slips out and gets on her soapbox ;)
An animal behaviour psychologist type said cats just want to kill. Murderous little fluff balls, they are lucky they are so cute as people wouldn't like little killers otherwise.

I love my little sociopath
 
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My kitten doesn't look anything like a murderer right now. I wish to revise her diagnosis because i have been in floods of tears this afternoon and she was trying to comfort me. She was licking my face. I can imagine if she could speak she would have asked me if i was ok. What a treasure. She is the most caring living thing in my life and has just curled up next to me to say thank you for giving her whiskas, even though i think it is possibly junk food, she loves it so gets it sometimes,
 
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