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Right a few months ago I was not in a good frame of mind. I am feeling happier and better about my self but i live in the UK and I got a spent criminal record for being nasty to some people online on forums, I really want to volunteer for camp america though and i am worried that i won't be able to. Im doing well at college and studying hard and want to go to UNI

The next part is I go to college and the friends I have are 16-18 most of them female. Is that ok?
 
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Have you contacted them about your spent criminal record to see if it would be an issue? As it is spent is probably wont and it would put your mind at ease.
 
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You still have to declare spent convictions so you won't be able to use the visa waver. You will need to contact the American embassy and have a interview.
 
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I was going to do Camp America years ago but I ended up spending a lot of time in the US anyway as my ex was from there and technically I'm half American myself.

When visiting the US you can travel on the Visa Waiver providing you have no criminal convictions of any kind.

You get up to 90 days in the US on the Visa Waiver.

It might be a good idea to check any criminal records you may or may not have... if you do have any then you won't be able to go or you could see if you can have an interview at the American embassy.

Wish you all the best of luck.

America is a great place.
 
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I don't want this stupid period of my life to affect my future choices though. I feel so stupid about it. I was not in a great place back then but now i am
 
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I don't want this stupid period of my life to affect my future choices though. I feel so stupid about it. I was not in a great place back then but now i am
Hi,

Everyone makes mistakes, what defines us is what we do next. It sounds as if you have learned from what happened and made changes so that it doesn't happen again, which is the most anyone can ask for. I think that it takes courage to reflect on the things that we are not proud of.

Criminal records can make it harder to get visas to other countries, but each individual case will be assessed by the embassies when you apply and it does not necessarily mean that you will be refused, just makes the process more complicated. It would also be worth checking with Camp Ammerica because most organisations working with children or vulnerable people require an enhanced criminal record check, which I believe will also check for spent convictions. Again it's not necessarily a No it will depend on what their rules and policies are.

What I tend to think is that things in life often happen for a reason and if you are not able to do Camp Ammerica then it may be because there's another better opportunity out there for you. There are so many Gap year type opportunities out there all over the world, there is sure to be some fantastic opportunities that are accessible to you. It's definately worth investigating Camp America, but keep an open mind because often life takes us down a route to experience things and meet people that we need, but don't yet know we need.

The fact that you are at college makes it likely you are surrounded by 16-18 year olds and therefore will form friendships within this group. I'm not sure how old you are. I think that the important things are whatever age group your friends are, to treat them kindly and respectfully. Also if you are older remember that this age group are likely to be emotionally more vulnerable and as someone with more life experience you will need to be the responsible adult when making decisions. 16-18 year olds may think that they are grown up, but I'm sure when you look back you realise how little you knew then and how easy it was to make huge mistakes.
 
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I am 25, 26 in november
 
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I am 25, 26 in november
I went to university when I was 18 and was on a course which was 40% mature students. I was friends with a lot of them particularly the male students as my particular halls of residence was mostly male mature students in their 20s and 30s so this was the group I socialised with mainly. It never caused any problems. Infact my friends in the all female block next door had constant bitchiness and feuds to deal with, where as my block was much more chilled and friendly. On the other hand in retrospect at 18 I was not emotionally mature enough to cope with the more intimate relationships with older men. But you live and learn. Just maybe something to be mindful of.
 
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Thats true. I mean the girls on my course are very nice people. I went on a study visit with my group just last week which went very well and actually went around the shops with some of them and it seemed find
 
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I really wish i could do camp america. I dont want my pass to affect my future. If I can never go to the USA and my stepsiblings can just because I was jealous of them.

Why was I so stupid. Why didn't I take medication earlier on :low:
 
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We live and learn Sam, as I said before there will be plenty of opportunities out there for you. You can't change the past, but it doesn't have to define your future.

My husband got in some serious trouble when he was younger pre-diagnosis. There may be some things that this will limit, but he is married with a nice home and a job he enjoys and many years of opportunities ahead.

As time goes on that difficult time will become a smaller and smaller part of your life.
 
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I suppose yeah
 
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I need a girlfriend.
 
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