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Hey look, this is merely a fascination of mine a question that has arose many times before with people I know who have suffered, are suffering and recovered with addiction issues.
I know some people who have recovered from addiction who say that if they were to have a relationship their partner must not indulge in their addiction in any way whatsoever to any degree (even if it is not a problem for them at that time). Many say it is because they fear that one day their partners indulgences might tempt them and their relationship may become co-dependent if that person was to develop an addiction.
However some people i know successfully have relationships with partners who indulge occassionally in their former addiction and say that it comes from their strength and will power and resolve not to do it.
Although they may not like to see the adverse results that can arise from their partner indulging in their former addiction.
I know professionals and organisations disagree to an extent. But the majority of opinions I have heard say that to be completely 'danger' or 'temptation' free you need to avoid those situations and people who indulge in your former addiction.
But I am unsure as to whether I agree with that in theory. Because in my opinion that would put these people in a very vulnerable position. Is avoidance of your former addiction actually the solution? Is it true recovery from it? What if you were unexpectedly exposed to it? Wouldn't it restrict your social life severly?
I know this argument is very complex and probably not so black and white. But I have noticed that co-dependency and relationships don't seem to have been discussed here very much and i often wonder why? (Please correct me if I have blatantly not noticed a thread that has talked about this recently!!!).
Look i'm not being judgemental, or even offering an opinion it is just a merely philosophical (is the right word??!!) question that has arisen from my observations of life.
I know some people who have recovered from addiction who say that if they were to have a relationship their partner must not indulge in their addiction in any way whatsoever to any degree (even if it is not a problem for them at that time). Many say it is because they fear that one day their partners indulgences might tempt them and their relationship may become co-dependent if that person was to develop an addiction.
However some people i know successfully have relationships with partners who indulge occassionally in their former addiction and say that it comes from their strength and will power and resolve not to do it.
Although they may not like to see the adverse results that can arise from their partner indulging in their former addiction.
I know professionals and organisations disagree to an extent. But the majority of opinions I have heard say that to be completely 'danger' or 'temptation' free you need to avoid those situations and people who indulge in your former addiction.
But I am unsure as to whether I agree with that in theory. Because in my opinion that would put these people in a very vulnerable position. Is avoidance of your former addiction actually the solution? Is it true recovery from it? What if you were unexpectedly exposed to it? Wouldn't it restrict your social life severly?
I know this argument is very complex and probably not so black and white. But I have noticed that co-dependency and relationships don't seem to have been discussed here very much and i often wonder why? (Please correct me if I have blatantly not noticed a thread that has talked about this recently!!!).
Look i'm not being judgemental, or even offering an opinion it is just a merely philosophical (is the right word??!!) question that has arisen from my observations of life.
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