• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Cigarettes

Lunus

Lunus

Well-known member
Joined
May 20, 2019
Messages
870
Location
Norfolk
So far I’ve managed to stop seven of my nine self destructive coping mechanisms. Today is the day I cut them further, down from two to one. Cigarettes are the next to stop, so armed with patches and a spray I’m going to give it a go.
Without doubt this is going to be my hardest challenge to date and also the most important. 😱
 
H

Hydrophobia

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 31, 2019
Messages
101
Location
South Carolina
So far I’ve managed to stop seven of my nine self destructive coping mechanisms. Today is the day I cut them further, down from two to one. Cigarettes are the next to stop, so armed with patches and a spray I’m going to give it a go.
Without doubt this is going to be my hardest challenge to date and also the most important. 😱
Hope you find some success. I haven’t been able to.
 
Urban Hermit

Urban Hermit

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 18, 2019
Messages
2,751
I have to say it's been really tough going for me, but I've been cigarette free for 3 weeks now, using a vape for replacement and slowly cutting down the nicotine levels and it feels like it's working xxx
 
daffy

daffy

Well-known member
Moderator
Founding Member
Joined
Dec 16, 2007
Messages
5,868
Location
hiding behind the sofa
Cigs are a really hard thing to overcome but with perseverance it can be done. Must admit it took me five attempts and then I finally conquered it and have been cig free for many years now.
Hope you all are lucky in your attempts to stop
 
G

Girl interupted

Well-known member
Joined
Nov 17, 2018
Messages
1,255
I’m going to suggest that you hold off on doing that for a bit.

You are chugging along at amazing speed, getting some wonderful results, and on an up.

I’m worried that you are trying to do too much at once. And that if you have a setback, it will have a devastating effect on you. It took a lifetime to develop your disorder. It’s not going to be magically fixed overnight, even though it may feel like that now.

Stay positive. I’m very pleased for you. But I’ve been on your train and super excited and “doing everything right” and hit a bump, and it completely derailed me.

You need to have a few old habits that comfort if you hit a snag. And smoking sounds like one of the more passive self destructive ones. Don’t get me wrong, smoking sucks, I do it too, but it’s better than other options.

I’ve grown fond of you with your kindness to others and your thoughtful posts. I am just trying to protect you a bit I guess.

Be safe.
 
D

dewey

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 16, 2019
Messages
1,004
Cigs are a really hard thing to overcome but with perseverance it can be done. Must admit it took me five attempts and then I finally conquered it and have been cig free for many years now.
Hope you all are lucky in your attempts to stop
how did you conquer it?
 
daffy

daffy

Well-known member
Moderator
Founding Member
Joined
Dec 16, 2007
Messages
5,868
Location
hiding behind the sofa
9
how did you conquer it?
back when I stopped in 1990 the only thing available was nicorette gum. So I used that but must admit I became addicted to that and in total it took about a year to become nicotine free. My daughter has been stopped since just before last Christmas and she said she didn’t want to vape as the habit was hand to mouth that she wanted to break so she too has used the gum. She still has the occasional piece but has not smoked in six months
The other thing you could do is commit yourself to buying something. Mine was a car and I borrowed the money and knew if I smoked I would not be able to repay the loan. But I paid the 2k back within the year.
 
Lunus

Lunus

Well-known member
Joined
May 20, 2019
Messages
870
Location
Norfolk
Hope you find some success. I haven’t been able to.
Thanks. I have never been able to in the past but having done some Radical Acceptance for some of the traumatic events in my past I’m feeling surprisingly confident. Could be famous last words lol.
 
Lunus

Lunus

Well-known member
Joined
May 20, 2019
Messages
870
Location
Norfolk
I have to say it's been really tough going for me, but I've been cigarette free for 3 weeks now, using a vape for replacement and slowly cutting down the nicotine levels and it feels like it's working xxx
That is absolutely wonderful news. Three weeks is fantastic and I think another week you can start classifying yourself as a non smoker!! Well done.
 
soulsearcher

soulsearcher

Well-known member
Joined
Dec 19, 2016
Messages
2,842
Good luck wish you all the best

Ive stopped smoking but I'm vaping and I'm struggling to stop vaping to be honest
 
Lunus

Lunus

Well-known member
Joined
May 20, 2019
Messages
870
Location
Norfolk
Cigs are a really hard thing to overcome but with perseverance it can be done. Must admit it took me five attempts and then I finally conquered it and have been cig free for many years now.
Hope you all are lucky in your attempts to stop
Thank you and well done!!!
 
Lunus

Lunus

Well-known member
Joined
May 20, 2019
Messages
870
Location
Norfolk
I’m going to suggest that you hold off on doing that for a bit.

You are chugging along at amazing speed, getting some wonderful results, and on an up.

I’m worried that you are trying to do too much at once. And that if you have a setback, it will have a devastating effect on you. It took a lifetime to develop your disorder. It’s not going to be magically fixed overnight, even though it may feel like that now.

Stay positive. I’m very pleased for you. But I’ve been on your train and super excited and “doing everything right” and hit a bump, and it completely derailed me.

You need to have a few old habits that comfort if you hit a snag. And smoking sounds like one of the more passive self destructive ones. Don’t get me wrong, smoking sucks, I do it too, but it’s better than other options.

I’ve grown fond of you with your kindness to others and your thoughtful posts. I am just trying to protect you a bit I guess.

Be safe.
Thank you for your advice. You are so sweet. You know me so well lol. I did indeed hit the said ‘bump’ after embarking on Radical Acceptance too early and indeed turned to my two remaining self destructive coping mechanisms..big time! The two I have left are cigarettes and cannabis. Here’s the thing, whilst cannabis leaves me with this risk of paranoia and smoking is on the face of it quite passive, it’s slightly different for me. That’s because my life of abusing my body is coming back to haunt me and I have been diagnosed with lung disease. It’s not progressive thank f*ck but it will be if I continue. So I’ve been stuck between a rock and a hard place, having smoking as a coping mechanism that I couldn’t stop whilst knowing it will eventually kill me if I continue, therefore increasing my suffering.
My creative solution, cook all my cannabis so I can’t smoke joints and making into fudge. (eating was another comfort) so I actually have two coping mechanisms rolled into one lol.
I am going to slow down on the recovery though..I’m totally exhausted. Thank you so much for your concern. 😘
 
Top