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Christmas is coming

megirl

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Scares me
I'm.on my own now separated from my husband
No family,
Great what to do for Christmas day
Maybe retreat to my bed stay there to the next day.
What are others going to.do
 
EddieH

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I dread it but love it at the same time. Got some little cousins, bought a santa suit and lots of presents. Sorry it's a lonely day for you megirl, make sure to send you some wishes on christmas day
 
daffy

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I’m not sure if ill be alone or not as yet this Christmas. I have been invited out but dont want to go. Ive invited a friend round for the day but she doesnt know yet if shes going to be with family or not. So it might be my first Christmas on my own. So might end up chatting with you all day @megirl
 
Zig Zag

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Hi megirl You can chat to me anytime Maybe we could talk about what it's like you being a girl lol :hug5:
 
Coreen

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I usually spend Christmas alone. In the past I have cooked to help the day feel special. Not sure what I'll do this year. My family is always busy with their immediate family. It's Okay. I'm used to it. I hope you can find a way to make Christmas special for you.
 
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indigo6

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You could volunteer, theres old folks christmas dinners or homeless stuff. Its a load of ole nonsense anyway. The pressure is immense for enforced happiness. Its a sad time for many people brought home by the happy happy image. I have 2 options this year(whoop whoop) but Id be happier washing the dishes at the homeless shelter. Or camping alone somewhere for the eve til c day night...I might even see Santa fly over the trees!
 
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ramboghettouk

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i'll spend it alone not that spending it with my sister in that house in brum with no way to get away from them as it'll be freezing outside, then the train with social anxiety, i'm incapable of that train journey at the moment, i'll have to buy the beef steak and freeeze it soon, maybe my neighbour will invite me for a meal with her church friends if you don't mind been converted, reckon they're out to radicalise me
 
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Sarah63689

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I'm in a similar situation, I'll be on my own. Not sure what it's going to be like, thought I might do something constructive like paint the bathroom or do some crafts but will probably end up watching too much TV!

Think it will be lonely but on the other hand it would be worse having to go somewhere I don't really want to go to. So trying not to anticipate that it'll be a bad Xmas and try to make the most of it.

Having said that, I totally sympathise with feeling scared of having to be on your own at Xmas, there's so much emphasis on it being a family time it makes you feel left out of you don't have a family.
 
calypso

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I have a family around me and will find it stressful being with them! I think I would also feel lonely though if I was on my own. I do sympathise, its a stressful time of year for many people and I always try to get on here on the day to talk with people who are stressed with it.
 
fazza

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We have our Christmas day on Christmas eve. Then spend the 25th visiting our older relatives who get fewer visitors throughout the year.
 
hicks

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We have our Christmas day on Christmas eve. Then spend the 25th visiting our older relatives who get fewer visitors throughout the year.
To me this is what Christmas should be all about. Forget buying a bunch of crap gifts for people and feeling pressured to 'get into the spirit'. I think spending time with people is a priceless gift in itself.
 
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smallgeezer

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Most people seem to find the pressure to be happy at Christmas a burden. Even people without mental health problems. Even children. You are not alone.

Christmas has been hijacked. Now people are lead to believe it is all about buying things. It is really about the birth of The Messiah.
 
hicks

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Of course, yes it's been completely hijacked. It's a Christian celebration. I don't have any religion, so technically Christmas means nothing to me. As a kid though, I gratefully received all those toys. But Christmas for most people has had nothing to do with Christ for many years.
 
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