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Chores and resting jerk face

  • Thread starter marinacubiczirconium
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New member
Oct 30, 2019
I find that sometimes my facial expression looks distressed or resentful, no matter what my actual emotions are. Also, I am clumsy, and can drop and bump into things loudly. When people say "thank you" or "good job" to me, I can find myself unsure of how to respond, and tempted to respond in an unfriendly way because I feel like a frog talking to a princess and like a friendly response would seem fake, pathetic, and "gross". Because of these reasons, I sometimes feel that "it's better to not do anything than to sweep while frowning, accidentally clang the dishes, and get upset if someone thanks me for sweeping". I know this is the worst case scenario, it's not all that bad anyway, I won't get better at it if I don't practice, and avoiding chores makes these problems look even *more* grouchy. Does anyone have suggestions as to how to deal with this?


Well-known member
Sep 5, 2019
On The Train
I had problems with resting grouch face my whole life! I was pretty miserable a lot of the time though and it really showed. I was asked why I was angry a lot when I really wasn't. One time I was talking to my friend and she said it was also my eyebrow shape that made me look angry. I have arched eyebrows naturally and plucked away the arch so my eyebrows are straight. I don't get asked why I am angry and I feel like I look more friendly with straight eyebrows.