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Challenging Negative Thoughts

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My therapist showed me this set of questions to use to challenge my negative thoughts. I thought I'd share them here:

1. Is there substantial evidence for my thought?

2. Is there evidence contrary to my thought?

3. Am I attempting to interpret this situation without all the evidence?

4. What would a friend think about this situation?

5. If I look at the situation positively, how is it different?

6. Will this matter a year from now? How about 5 years from now?
 
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another tip which i find really good is, if you start having negative thoughts, just start to pay attention to everything around you, so, just look at stuff and stay right present in the moment
(it's basically a way of 'coming out of your head' and looking outwards instead (instead of inwards)
 
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Yes, my therapist taught me that too. It works too. I generally look around and spot 5 things I can see, 4 things I can hear, 3 things I can touch, 2 things I can smell, and 1 thing I can taste.
 
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Hi I too suffer from negative thinking , it’s hard to stop. Feels like a constant battle with the mind . I do see a therapist he recommended using headspace it’s a free app to listen to meditation
 
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i cant stop negative thoughts

i am 30 years,married and have a 5 yo girl... ever since she was born i have been obsessive with my behaviour in the past because i have had traumatic experiences. to be precise i had a long relationship where i contracted genital herpes... i had a relationship later on and told that ither person which went on ti tell people. i panicked because i live.in a small community everyine gossips and judges... my ex then threatened me and made me look like a whore... ever since then i feel im nit aware of my self worth im avoiding evryone... sometimes i feel when i go places people still stare at me n discuss my past and because of this i cant move on. im also scared people will avoid me n my child,my husband says my thiughts r impossible and pathetic that im taking it too far... i need someone elses opinion please!!!
 
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Thanks for this - this is a helpful post :)
 
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Your thoughts aren’t pathetic your husband just doesn’t understand bc he hasn’t been through that. You’ll have to slowly get back to seeing yourself the way you used to. You didn’t do anything wrong and honestly people have probably either forgotten or they know it doesn’t effect them and they’ve shrugged it off. I would be pretty freaked out too but what your husband is probably trying to say is that you logically shouldn’t be. He’s using his logical brain to assess the situation, you’re using your emotional brain.

Have you had any therapy? I feel like talking it out with a third party would help you.
 
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