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Causes of Social Anxiety

OCDguy

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Hi All, could anyone enlighten me as to what caused their Social Anxiety, and the best methods for overcoming it :)
 
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I had it from a very young age and I'm talking about the first few years of my life, most people just called me shy but it turned out to be more than that.

Since I was so young I have very few memories so can't really say what may have caused it, but it was probably some psychological issue I had when I was first developing or maybe I was just born this way.

Not that I've ever been neglected or abused in any way, my parents are great and always have been.

As far as overcoming it I haven't quite figured that one out yet, I'm still quite reserved and quiet, but I think my anti-anxiety meds are helping and so are my anti-psychotics as I think my voice played a part in my anxieties even though I didn't know he was there until the age of 36, I haven't gone red in the face while talking to people while ever I've been on them, they also put a wedge between his and my mind so I'm no longer influenced by him which allows me to discover myself for the first time in my life.

After I got meds I felt better but a life time of being socially anxious left me somewhat socially inept, I still wasn't good at talking to people. So I'm here on the forums, I joined every social group my CMHT had to offer and since my discharge I joined a men's mental health talking group to try and get as much practise as I possibly can. I still have a long way to go but I think I'm getting better.
 
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Thanks for your quality input NWiddi, that has been very insightful :)
 
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@OCDguy There's a simple answer to the first part of your question for me, being able to hear what everyone else was thinking left me with social anxiety. I used to be quite good at socialising as a teenager and into my early 20's, but that all vanished with the onset of psychosis and subsequent diagnosis's. It's really hard to be social when you're hearing voices on lots of different levels from lots of different sources, as well as what other people are thinking.

As to the second part of your question...I'm still miles off managing to overcome it, but I have found ways to minimise the trauma of the social experiences I do encounter. Like keeping my social interactions small until I get more comfortable. One of the biggest things that's helped me though other than medication, is not beating myself up about struggling in social situations and working within my current limitations.
 
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Thank you Finite for your valuable input :)
 
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I can relate to NWiddi, i was always shy since i remember and still is but didnt care much about people saying am shy when i was young until my SA going peak when i started to work.

Am overcoming it by moving to a positive environment, working on myself and also got lot of support from my big brother, am also working on a personal project, getting some achievement(doesnt have to be seen by others) help me too.
 
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