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bunrab

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I am caring for a family member who is on psychiatric medication in the sense that I am his sole support of financing right now. He has an upcoming court date for a minor offense that might get have no penalty due to his mental health issue. I would like advice on how to see that he gets back to working and supporting himself: how to encourage him to do that, how mental health issues obstruct having a normal worklife, etc. This is a worrisome situation, as I could not support this person financially indefinitely and he does not seem in any hurry to earn a living, saying that his medication makes him feel like a zombie (ostensibly this means it would be too hard for him to work). Has anyone had a similar experience in caring for someone? Or has a comment? I would like to see this person being more independent.
 
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I am on medication for psychosis and the old type did make me a zombie, but I had it changed to Aripiprazole which I can take in the morning and doesn't knock me out. I think there is a chance that he isn't wanting to even try and that can be a genuine fear of being "normal" with all the stresses that brings.

But, something has to change and you can get beneifts (if you are in Britain) for him and they should go to you as the main carer. You can ask to go to any psych appointments and tell them that they need to sort something out for him as you can't go on caring for them. They should take that seriously and try to stop them ending back in MH services.
 
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I'm the complete opposite when it comes to meds. I am on Aripipazole, and through for mental health coniditions, and bearing in mind, I have another set of strain of problems about me, i can't take aripipazole in themornings, because even if i take at 8.30am, I am feeling and this the enhance effect happens, on me, or in me, I am sleepier feeling by lunchtimes. So, I take during or late afternoon, or early evening, and I swear by these session of times for my meds. Also i like to feel more alert for travel to and from volunteering duty calls, across a couple of Post code areas, of North West London. I am rebooting me on this side of things, i am resuming to volunteering, so therefore, I set a deadline to have my meds, at 6pm, on a weekday, and to help me to keep very well, hopefully, during the evening ahead on a day, and in particular for when away on holiday to our other country, March time, beginning of march in fact.

So i have disagree, that Aripipazole for the mornings?! Doesn't agree with me for that time of day anymore, .
 
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That is fine we all react differently to meds. I still think that on the rest you are going to have to find a way to ask to go to appointments with him and explain to the MH services your problems
 
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If your in the UK and have access to Internet go to the site gov.UK and go to the the how to claim benefits my partner was the same. Was awful but anyway it was his physiatrist that managed to help understand he needs them. Was hard work as my partner was very stubborn at the time and refused to believe he had a serious illness at the time. It's not easy but I was really hard on my partner and I basically gave him the ultimatum get sorted or else basically. God... I sound like a horrible person!
 
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Its a tricky thing that. Without my meds I could no longer earn a living wage, and I would likely end up back in the hospital. With my meds I'm so confused, lethargic, and slow that I couldn't earn a living wage. Catch 22. You definately need to look into benefits. In the UK use the link provided above. In the US go to I believe ssa.gov it is a long process though. Ive been waiting over 2 years for SSA benefits.

Good luck.
 
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Thanks to all who replied to me. As a postscript, the person I have been helping has told me he got a work-from-home job. So he might not need as much financial help. Another issue might be that a family member is asking him for assistance with some computer work for free. I told the family member and the person I am helping that I am concerned that doing extra work for free might be overwhelming. They both think it is OK. I hope so. This person I am helping apparently has not been earning his own way for quite awhile while he has had mental health issues. I hope he does not overdue it now by both working for pay and for free at the same time!
 
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Thanks to all who replied to me. As a postscript, the person I have been helping has told me he got a work-from-home job. So he might not need as much financial help. Another issue might be that a family member is asking him for assistance with some computer work for free. I told the family member and the person I am helping that I am concerned that doing extra work for free might be overwhelming. They both think it is OK. I hope so. This person I am helping apparently has not been earning his own way for quite awhile while he has had mental health issues. I hope he does not overdue it now by both working for pay and for free at the same time!
Well if he enjoys working on computers it might actually be therapeutic to work on the computer. Hopefully his work from home job keeps him occupied and less of a financial burden.
 
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Thanks for the comment. I do hope that his work keeps his mind off of troubles. One reason his also doing free work on a computer is concerning is that when he has been in mental institutions, they have never allowed the inmates to use computers or cellphones (to my knowledge). I am wondering if that is because mental health staff think that too much computer/cellphone usage is bad for mental health. I also wonder if that usage could be an escape from reality of sorts that might be bad, or an avoidance of personal contact.
 
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