- Sep 17, 2018
Hi, I posted a thread last year, in the introductory category, which was obviously not the right place, but it took me a while to figure that out. Life has been very busy since and I was hoping with the recent changes I would be able to settle down and feel better. But I am now back in this pattern of recurring bad thoughts and it is really making my life miserable. I not only wake up through the night and can't stop thinking about what I should have done differently and why I didn't, I also can't concentrate properly or even enjoy a day off with my family because I see the scenes of what could have been in front of my eyes all the time instead of the real world. It's not even about anything that concerns me personally, it's about other people like my kids that I feel I have failed helping to accomplish something. I know that I did what I thought was best for them and they (my little son on this case) have already overcome the setback but I just can't stop thinking about it. I don't know why I get so upset about these things, it always feels like I have messed up and the opportunity will never come around again and I was just too stupid to handle it right. As I said, these are really usually not life-and - death decisions, and most often they are concerning others more than me. I just want to stop myself from being so upset about and obsessing over these things, it's making everything else so difficult and making me so miserable. I've tried so many different strategies and objectively I know it's me, not the little problems, it's the way I obsess about them, but I can't stop it. Looking back I always think about what I should have done differently. Anybody got advice? Thank youfor listening!