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Can't get through to counsellor - feeling down :(

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Jisatsu

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Well, I tried to get through to her on thursday for the first time (I went to the doctor for the first time also on wednesday and she gave me her number) and I couldn't get through after about 20-25 attempts of phoning.

I couldn't phone on friday because I was out too late and I can't phone when my parents are around as this is all a secret and I don't want them knowing. I'm going to phone tomorrow after school hopefully but I just feel so down now.

I don't know what I'm going to do in the meantime, I can't keep going on like this. I'm going to have to wait for a while and I don't know if I can cope with " a while". I feel so down.. I want to self harm again and run away. I just don't want to be here (if anywhere) anymore.
 
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hi again,

all i can think of is to try phoning at different times of the day - obviously the counsellor doesn't have a secretary so can only answer the phone when not with someone.

actually its just occurred to me that just before the hour might be a good time - most appointments start on the hour and end just before.

failing that, i wonder if your doctor has an email address for them?

i'm sure you're nearly there:)
 
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I got through today.
It's connexions that she works with and she told me that they only do wednesday evening (after 5) or thursday morning (after 9am) but neither are good for me because a) wednesday is too late and my parents will want to know where i'm going and b) thursday morning doesn't suit because I have lessons in the morning!

I told her the only times I'm free are from 2pm and the latest of 4pm but she said that counsellors don't work at those times in town!
She told me there is a counsellor at my school that works for them but I don't want to see one at school because I will get upset and people will also wonder/see where I am.

I have a feeling I'm going to be waiting forever :(:(
 
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hope you get help asap, is it impossible to talk your parents ???
I had a girl friend who suffered as you are now, she did self harm, which was awful but she did talk to her mum and dad, who did help and support her, through her own help and determination she got a lot better, not saying this applies to you but it may help you to know you're not alone in this.
you brave even to post here, hope others can give you support !!



You may feel alone,
that your heart has turned to stone,
you're full of doubt and pain,
you're going mad, going insane ? there's a future, bright for you,
do not give into the things you'll rue,
hold fast weather through,
you're hope is with in your grasp,
serenity will be yours at last !



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My parents once approached my about the self harm when I was about 12/13 and took me to the doctor but I refused the counselling and then just carried on like normal because I hate talking to my parents about it.

They patronise me and make me feel like I'm 5 years old and naive and stupid and just a generic teenager and it's just a phase..
 
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very sorry to hear that , that makes things so much harder,
I hope you find someone who respects you and genuinely listens to you ??
would you consider one of the mental heath charities, they have trained staff who can provide great help ??



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i think you should take them up on the evening sessions.

i know you don't want to tell your parents, but if you just gently tell them that you need to go to this counsellor but you don't want to make a fuss, i'm sure they'll be supportive and just give you some space.

once you've told them, that'll be it - you can keep it all to yourself after that if you really want to.

failing that, i'd go back to your doctor and see what they can suggest. take care.
 
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