- Dec 18, 2007
Yeah I can see where your coming from, but for me it's this: I just don't want my illness to go around as gossip and then give certain people an excuse to label me and hurt my future chances with other people that I will meet. That in itself creates a lot of stress. I Can imagine it now, "Oh did you now that <my name> has got Schizophrenia/ Mental Illness ? Yeah he has, people like that should be locked up, shouldn't they ? < rant on >" - I know people say stuff like that because I heard it in conversation between two people years ago. Sorry if I'm coming across as really negative but I can't ignore what I've heard for myself. Ideally, I would like to tell someone more or less straight away but my trust has been abused before and I won't put myself through that again.I was always upfront about my problems. If they had a problem with it then it was obvious to me that the person was not suitable for me however pretty they were. I must admit my experiences in the dating game were more positive than negative, I came across people who were more screwed up than me and also some really nice understanding caring people. There"s two ways of looking at it, tell em from the off, if they don't like it then tough, if they do then the pressures gonna be off from the word go. Also if you hold it back and tell em months later they'll probably throw a wobbly because you weren't honest from the start.