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Can someone PLEASE help me?!

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DLM

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Hi, my name is Darla. My husband has psychosis. It was originally drug induced but now, no matter how long he stays clean, it never goes away. We have 2 children and his condition has caused us to be homeless and broke. It has brought pure hell to our family but he refuses to get help for it. He doesn't see it as his problem, he thinks it's all my fault.

Mostly, he hears voices. Most of them are the voices of people he's known most of his life, his childhood friends, his ex-wife. There's only one that I know of that is completely fabricated and that one is "Bob" and he's in charge. Whenever anything in his life doesn't go exactly as planned, it's because "Bob" won't allow it.

My husband hears the voices from through the walls, from the attic (when we had a house), from the speakers in every car we ride in. He hears them outside, I don't know from where but he does. He accuses me of having affairs with them. He thinks everyone can hear them but they are just too scared of "Bob" to say anything about it so they pretend they can't hear it. He thinks people say things to him and about him in public. He thinks he's been shunned from society. He thinks these people do things to our children. And he blames me for all of it. He thinks they stay around and won't go away because I keep them around.

Normally, my husband is a wonderful person. He's a great husband and an incredible father. Since this behavior started though, he's been abusive. Mentally, emotionally, and even physically. The kids and I never know what will trigger him. The smallest movement, the most off-handed remark, even blinking in the wrong direction or too many times in a row, can set him off. We live in constant fear.

Can someone please tell me anything I can possibly do to convince him to see a doctor? I can't work due to fibromyalgia so we rely on him completely for financial support. And, more than that, I really love my husband and I just want him to get better. I desperately miss the man I married 15 years ago.
 
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Hi,
Welcome to the forum
Can you talk to his Dr? He urgently needs treatment, many people get better.
I'm so sorry your going thru this.
Take care
 
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DLM

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Hi,
Welcome to the forum
Can you talk to his Dr? He urgently needs treatment, many people get better.
refuses to go to his doctor. The way he sees it, it's my fault and he doesn't need a doctor. I've begged and pleaded and cried for him to go but he won't. The kids have begged him. He thinks they ask him to go because "Bob" told them to. I need some way to make him see that he needs to go.
Hi,
Welcome to the forum
Can you talk to his Dr? He urgently needs treatment, many people get better.
I'm so sorry your going thru this.
Take care
He refuses to go to his doctor. The way he sees it, it's all my fault and he doesn't have a problem so he doesn't need to go to a doctor. I've begged and pleaded and cried for him to go but he won't. The kids have begged him. He thinks they ask because "Bob" tells them to. I need some way to make him see that he needs to go.
 
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2 options:

* Prepare a scenario so that you can get him to the doctor without his knowledge (with somebody’s help somehow)
* Get support from authorities (some child protection services) so that they will force him to go to the hospital
 
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DLM

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2 options:

* Prepare a scenario so that you can get him to the doctor without his knowledge (with somebody’s help somehow)
* Get support from authorities (some child protection services) so that they will force him to go to the hospital
Thank you. I would hate to trick him like that but I will if I have to. I'd do anything at this point to take care of him and my family.
 
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Yes it sounds harsh, but I know a few cases that were solved only this way, weird tricking with some friends that got that person to the hospital eventually and a path to recovery was made possible
 
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I would think if you went to the child protection authorities you could get help quicker if children are involved.
 
Warrior

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I'd do anything at this point to take care of him and my family.
The authorities for child protection is a good one because he totally needs help, hearing to many voices and the situation of (Don't move or he'll kick off) it's no good for yourself or your children put in the fear of living.

The other option is take this worry to your doctor where sectioning can happen if they find him to bad and he's got no choice then on being treated and if he tried to get out, they have the police bring patients right back, something serious needs to be done for your safety. :hug5:

 
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The authorities for child protection is a good one because he totally needs help, hearing to many voices and the situation of (Don't move or he'll kick off) it's no good for yourself or your children put in the fear of living.

The other option is take this worry to your doctor where sectioning can happen if they find him to bad and he's got no choice then on being treated and if he tried to get out, they have the police bring patients right back, something serious needs to be done for your safety. :hug5:

Thank you. It's looking like that's what I may have to do. I can't even imagine what might happen if he gets even worse.
 
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Thank you. It's looking like that's what I may have to do. I can't even imagine what might happen if he gets even worse.
Voices in the head can drive you soft been there with that in the past and the situation your in also could do a lot of strain otherwise, so you need to go for either option, it's sad to do but he does need help besides you and your children need protection :hug5:
 
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Hi, my name is Darla. My husband has psychosis. It was originally drug induced but now, no matter how long he stays clean, it never goes away. We have 2 children and his condition has caused us to be homeless and broke. It has brought pure hell to our family but he refuses to get help for it. He doesn't see it as his problem, he thinks it's all my fault.

Mostly, he hears voices. Most of them are the voices of people he's known most of his life, his childhood friends, his ex-wife. There's only one that I know of that is completely fabricated and that one is "Bob" and he's in charge. Whenever anything in his life doesn't go exactly as planned, it's because "Bob" won't allow it.

My husband hears the voices from through the walls, from the attic (when we had a house), from the speakers in every car we ride in. He hears them outside, I don't know from where but he does. He accuses me of having affairs with them. He thinks everyone can hear them but they are just too scared of "Bob" to say anything about it so they pretend they can't hear it. He thinks people say things to him and about him in public. He thinks he's been shunned from society. He thinks these people do things to our children. And he blames me for all of it. He thinks they stay around and won't go away because I keep them around.

Normally, my husband is a wonderful person. He's a great husband and an incredible father. Since this behavior started though, he's been abusive. Mentally, emotionally, and even physically. The kids and I never know what will trigger him. The smallest movement, the most off-handed remark, even blinking in the wrong direction or too many times in a row, can set him off. We live in constant fear.

Can someone please tell me anything I can possibly do to convince him to see a doctor? I can't work due to fibromyalgia so we rely on him completely for financial support. And, more than that, I really love my husband and I just want him to get better. I desperately miss the man I married 15 years ago.
Hi there,
I'm sorry you are going through this. I was once psychotic and refused to see a doctor. My boyfriend did two things that proved to be critical in getting me help.

1. He located a mobile emergency mental health intervention unit that agreed to come out to me if I continued to refuse to see a doctor.
2. He tricked me. I know it's controversial but it worked. I believed he was a government secret agent. He told me if I would go see a doctor to get on meds to calm me down, he would reveal his true identity to me. I fell for it and it resulting in a prescription that broke the psychosis.

So I don't know if you have a mobile mental health clinic in your area, but it wouldn't hurt to check into it. Or if it's possible to be creative enough to make up some excuse to trick him into seeing a doctor, I would give that a try too.

Good Luck!
 
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I've heard voices and believed all sorts of crazy things. I didn't do tablets for 2 years because I didn't think I needed them and I would be harmed by them. As it turns out I've only just started them last month and I already feel better. If he takes tablets he will feel much better and way less aggressive and angry. I've had delusions like these and they have gone away so your husband is still there and very much savable. You just need to get him to see that he isn't well. Sending hopeful thoughts for his recovery
 
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DLM

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I've heard voices and believed all sorts of crazy things. I didn't do tablets for 2 years because I didn't think I needed them and I would be harmed by them. As it turns out I've only just started them last month and I already feel better. If he takes tablets he will feel much better and way less aggressive and angry. I've had delusions like these and they have gone away so your husband is still there and very much savable. You just need to get him to see that he isn't well. Sending hopeful thoughts for his recovery
Thank you. I sometimes wonder if he is still in there somewhere but I I hope and pray every day that he is. I still see glimpses of the person he used to be sometimes but they just get fewer and farther between. I'm trying my hardest every single day to convince him to get help. I'll never give up on that even if I have to leave him.
 
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