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Can BPD be “inherited”?

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EstherRose94

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I’ve always wondered how on earth I wound up so anxious. I always have been. Even as a little kid! But nothing ever happened to cause it. As I get older, I have learned that mental health issues are abundant in both parents families. Both grandmothers were raised by abusive parents and subsequently managed to effectively parent their own kids despite that. (Im the product of two lines of strong women 🥰). Anyway, I’m sure that trauma-induced MH issues pass from parent to child by genetics and subtle behavioral abnormalities when raising the kid. Both parents turned out great, I’m doing well, but my sister and I both have this weird anxiety for “no reason”. Anyone have any info on this topic? I’m mostly just curious. Can we really “feel” effects of ancestors Hardships? How far back?
 
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I’ve always wondered how on earth I wound up so anxious. I always have been. Even as a little kid! But nothing ever happened to cause it. As I get older, I have learned that mental health issues are abundant in both parents families. Both grandmothers were raised by abusive parents and subsequently managed to effectively parent their own kids despite that. (Im the product of two lines of strong women 🥰). Anyway, I’m sure that trauma-induced MH issues pass from parent to child by genetics and subtle behavioral abnormalities when raising the kid. Both parents turned out great, I’m doing well, but my sister and I both have this weird anxiety for “no reason”. Anyone have any info on this topic? I’m mostly just curious. Can we really “feel” effects of ancestors Hardships? How far back?
I do not think it is possible to ‘pass on’ traumatic events through generations. However, I’m certain mental illnesses are largely generic (stats say between 60-70% for BPD), with the other 30-40% from an invalidating environment. Obviously if your parents were suffering it is more probable they were contributing to your invalidating environment, which in turn increases the probability that your BPD would have been triggered at an early age.
 
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I believe babies pick up on mothers stress in the womb so if the mother is stressed, unwell or going through a trauma I believe the baby can feel that.

I know my mother had difficult pregnancies and my brother and I are both very anxious.

My grandma on my mothers side had anxiety and grandad was also high strung.

Dad is high strung too - not diagnosed bpd but I learnt to push people away from him and he can be emotionally volatile.

Basically I think it's a mix of genes and nurture.

We can feel when our mothers or caregivers are unhappy which is partly why support for mothers is so important.
 
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No, BPD isn't necessarily inherited. Aspects of what causes it are inherited, but it doesn't always turn into it. A Google search may be a little more informative.
 
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I believe babies pick up on mothers stress in the womb so if the mother is stressed, unwell or going through a trauma I believe the baby can feel that.

I know my mother had difficult pregnancies and my brother and I are both very anxious.

My grandma on my mothers side had anxiety and grandad was also high strung.

Dad is high strung too - not diagnosed bpd but I learnt to push people away from him and he can be emotionally volatile.

Basically I think it's a mix of genes and nurture.

We can feel when our mothers or caregivers are unhappy which is partly why support for mothers is so important.
Great that means ive already messed my kids up and they are destined for a life of mh illness.
 
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Great that means ive already messed my kids up and they are destined for a life of mh illness.
Hi, no I don't think you have , a loving home and supportive parenting can be the best thing X
 
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Great that means ive already messed my kids up and they are destined for a life of mh illness.
Oh no I really didn’t mean it that way. I mean more like epigenetics or genetics. Even then like don’t worry. I was just speculating/ having a philosophical discussion.
 
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I would think certain patterns of behaviour are inherited. As for BPD that's learned patterns of behaviour from being treated with abuse and/or neglect our ways of survival however maladaptive strategies all the same that's what has got us through.
 
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you havent messed your kids up, its just reality that of course children are impacted by their parents, as we will have been by ours as well. it doesnt mean there will be anything wrong with your children especially if they understand you have an illness. i am sure you a wonderful parent.
 
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I dont think BPD can be passed on its a reaction to and behaviours related to how we have been treated/neglected/ abused I think if you are bought up in a loving supportive caring environment chances of experiencing BPD are unlikely
Its a result of abuse and neglect and maltreatment of some type
 
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