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DaisyLaCrazy

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My anxiety is an all time high. I’ve been diagnosed with heart disease during my pregnancy , have a newborn, lack of sleep etc. On top of that my anxiety is bad so I keep waking with a racing heart. I keep panicking that this could make my heart worse but I have been told by a specialist that anxiety will not damage my heart further.
But I still worry what if she is wrong? And that keeps my anxiety there and my racing heart.
i know I’m meant to accept the uncertainty but never understand how? I am tempted to repeat over to myself I don’t know if it will harm my heart but that feels a compulsion. I guess im supposed to just accept the feeling of anxiety racing heart etc snd not feed any of my thoughts?
i have to get better for my children I love them so much I’m determined to do anything but my latest therapist didn’t understand pure ocd so wasn’t helpful. I need some advise to really help me and I will really try to put it in place.
what am I supposed to do with this situation just not compulse or ruminate and accept my heart is racing ? When will it stop and I feel normal? Usually I would ruminate and then my heart would calm down once I get the ‘right’ feeling … thanks willing to do anything to get over this. X
 
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I've had varying degrees of ocd in my life, yours must be through the roof at the moment with hormones and all that. Please try stay calm, breath, don't Google, your here and your ok. Anxiety won't make it worse, it's a normal human thing, you must try work on bringing yourself back down though, breathe, talk to yourself and remember your not alone. Also give yourself credit, you've been given a life changing diagnosis thats not easy in itself
 
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DaisyLaCrazy

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I've had varying degrees of ocd in my life, yours must be through the roof at the moment with hormones and all that. Please try stay calm, breath, don't Google, your here and your ok. Anxiety won't make it worse, it's a normal human thing, you must try work on bringing yourself back down though, breathe, talk to yourself and remember your not alone. Also give yourself credit, you've been given a life changing diagnosis thats not easy in itself
Thanks so much. I have been told it’s mild and can be treated with medication and live a normal life but I still always doubt and that makes my anxiety cling on that I’m harming myself in some way. I appreciate your reply. Thank you I will practise deep breathing.
 
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Thanks so much. I have been told it’s mild and can be treated with medication and live a normal life but I still always doubt and that makes my anxiety cling on that I’m harming myself in some way. I appreciate your reply. Thank you I will practise deep breathing.
It's totally understandable, I was told years ago that anxiety is your friend, some friend haha. Try take it easy and sending you a hug
 
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AshleymarieIsMe33

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I can totally relate to you ! As I am sitting here undiagnosed with my heart condition my mind is constantly racing. All I can think is negative thoughts constantly! I’m afraid to do anything in fear it may be bad for my heart. I have a two year old daughter snd I just want to be able to share amazing times and memories but it is so hard to be in any moment when my mind races off! I have tried distracting myself , I have tried everything ! The only thing that has helped so far was an old mans advice I got with one of my hospital trips. He told me “ the mind is a very powerful thing. If you continue to let your mind take over your body , you will lose” I looked at him like he was nuts because he had no idea what I felt physically at the moment , however. I thanked him for his candid advice and I went about my day. It didn’t really sit in my brain until later. But he was right ! I have to keep reminding myself over and over that my mind can not takeover , my thoughts can not overtake my strength. You are strong ! Try to consume your thoughts with positivity. It may seem difficult it may seem impossible but constantly worrying for me at least , makes me even worse. Sometimes it really helps just to have others do talk to do you don’t feel alone! I really wish you all the best in your health ! It can be very scary when you are told there is something wrong with your heart. I am in the same boat! I have also found for me that if I want more reassurance I get a second opinion. Financially this has ruined me but I will give every last dollar for just a second doctor to tell me what I want to hear. Deep breathing , positive thoughts and focusing on the positives could be a nice distraction for you ! I really wish you all the best and feel free to reach out if you want to talk some more
 
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I can totally relate to you ! As I am sitting here undiagnosed with my heart condition my mind is constantly racing. All I can think is negative thoughts constantly! I’m afraid to do anything in fear it may be bad for my heart. I have a two year old daughter snd I just want to be able to share amazing times and memories but it is so hard to be in any moment when my mind races off! I have tried distracting myself , I have tried everything ! The only thing that has helped so far was an old mans advice I got with one of my hospital trips. He told me “ the mind is a very powerful thing. If you continue to let your mind take over your body , you will lose” I looked at him like he was nuts because he had no idea what I felt physically at the moment , however. I thanked him for his candid advice and I went about my day. It didn’t really sit in my brain until later. But he was right ! I have to keep reminding myself over and over that my mind can not takeover , my thoughts can not overtake my strength. You are strong ! Try to consume your thoughts with positivity. It may seem difficult it may seem impossible but constantly worrying for me at least , makes me even worse. Sometimes it really helps just to have others do talk to do you don’t feel alone! I really wish you all the best in your health ! It can be very scary when you are told there is something wrong with your heart. I am in the same boat! I have also found for me that if I want more reassurance I get a second opinion. Financially this has ruined me but I will give every last dollar for just a second doctor to tell me what I want to hear. Deep breathing , positive thoughts and focusing on the positives could be a nice distraction for you ! I really wish you all the best and feel free to reach out if you want to talk some more
So sorry to hear you are in the same boat. What is wrong with your heart? I had no sleep again last night and today feel like my heart is struggling but also not sure if it is due to lack of sleep and anxiety. I keep being told the anxiety won’t harm my heart but I feel it will as I’m so tense. I am feeling quite emotional and drained. The ocd thoughts are constant and it’s draining me. If I even began to explain my ocd themes they are pathetic such as having to understand how everything ‘feels’ until it clicks and obsessing over my mother in law who I dislike and recently came over so triggered me. I wonder how normal people would deal with it and I hate that I let it bother me so much. I wish I could wake up and this ocd be gone. I’m not able to enjoy my beautiful babies and I’m terrified of dying. I have reached out and am speaking to someone but I know I need meds but as I’m on heart meds am scared to start anything else yet.
 
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I have a tachycardia issue with syncope which means my heart will go from normal beats per minute to about 160 all the way up to 200 without a warning or a reason and it causes me to pass out. I could just be sitting still snd it happens. I have had every test known and no answers ! I’m constantly scared too ! So I totally understand. I notice the more I worry the worse I get and fall into these vicious cycles. I am also being treated for a thyroid disorder. Please don’t take anything that is happening to you and consider yourself wanting to be “ normal “ I don’t actually believe there is a definition out there of a normal person. Only what we are groomed to perceive as normal. Trust me , most people have something in their lives they wish would change. For now , the best thing is to do is try to relax ( believe me I know it’s easier said than done ) ! I am not a doctor so I do not know if anxiety can take an actual toll on your heart. However , if you have been seen and they are assuring you it won’t try to be easy on yourself ! The mind is a powerful thing!! I too can not take any meds until they get to the bottom of everything so it’s hard to be in Constnt state of worry and not be able to treat it ! Try to stay positive! I’m thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and vibes your way
 
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My anxiety is an all time high. I’ve been diagnosed with heart disease during my pregnancy , have a newborn, lack of sleep etc. On top of that my anxiety is bad so I keep waking with a racing heart. I keep panicking that this could make my heart worse but I have been told by a specialist that anxiety will not damage my heart further.
But I still worry what if she is wrong? And that keeps my anxiety there and my racing heart.
i know I’m meant to accept the uncertainty but never understand how? I am tempted to repeat over to myself I don’t know if it will harm my heart but that feels a compulsion. I guess im supposed to just accept the feeling of anxiety racing heart etc snd not feed any of my thoughts?
i have to get better for my children I love them so much I’m determined to do anything but my latest therapist didn’t understand pure ocd so wasn’t helpful. I need some advise to really help me and I will really try to put it in place.
what am I supposed to do with this situation just not compulse or ruminate and accept my heart is racing ? When will it stop and I feel normal? Usually I would ruminate and then my heart would calm down once I get the ‘right’ feeling … thanks willing to do anything to get over this. X


Hi!

I don't know if you're a spiritual person, and if not, that's ok... I've always loved the frase, don't take life too seriously, we're never making it out alive. We're here for a short period of time and of course we wanna be here for as long as we can but, truth is, no one really knows how much time they have on this earth. Worrying about what your doctor told you will do no good.
Worrying about anything really, does no good. Trust that you are here NOW and NOW everything is ok and nothing is happening - it's kinda like grounding yourself to the present. You are only responsible for living RIGHT NOW.
You have a new purpose, your baby - focus your attention on that and you'll see how that 'noise' in your heads or intrusive thoughts lessen.
In the end, we all want to feel safe and loved, we all want the same things. You are not alone.
You are worthy and you will be ok.
 
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DaisyLaCrazy

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Hi!

I don't know if you're a spiritual person, and if not, that's ok... I've always loved the frase, don't take life too seriously, we're never making it out alive. We're here for a short period of time and of course we wanna be here for as long as we can but, truth is, no one really knows how much time they have on this earth. Worrying about what your doctor told you will do no good.
Worrying about anything really, does no good. Trust that you are here NOW and NOW everything is ok and nothing is happening - it's kinda like grounding yourself to the present. You are only responsible for living RIGHT NOW.
You have a new purpose, your baby - focus your attention on that and you'll see how that 'noise' in your heads or intrusive thoughts lessen.
In the end, we all want to feel safe and loved, we all want the same things. You are not alone.
You are worthy and you will be ok.
Thank you so much. I have so much guilt that this is taking away me enjoying my precious new baby. I hate myself right now. They need me to be mentally strong and I am so mentally weak :(
 
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Thank you so much. I have so much guilt that this is taking away me enjoying my precious new baby. I hate myself right now. They need me to be mentally strong and I am so mentally weak :(
That's where the right meds come into play and can give your mind a break, some rest. In my last therapy session, I extended it from one to two hours. I feel so much better because with just one hour with her I wasn't able to relax enough to let everything out. With two hours my therapist and I can ease into the session with some chit chat and we can drop into a little chit chat here and there throughout the two hours which calms me down when I feel too anxious or lifts me up when I'm feeling depressed.
 
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That's where the right meds come into play and can give your mind a break, some rest. In my last therapy session, I extended it from one to two hours. I feel so much better because with just one hour with her I wasn't able to relax enough to let everything out. With two hours my therapist and I can ease into the session with some chit chat and we can drop into a little chit chat here and there throughout the two hours which calms me down when I feel too anxious or lifts me up when I'm feeling depressed.

what meds do you think would be best for me
To give my mind a break? I’m desperate.
my psychologist isn’t great Idont Really click with her but I’ve also been speaking to a therapist who is amazing. I’m starting to feel better the ocd is less. I’m waiting on an anti depressent to hopefully help me. For now I have Valium as a PIP but don’t want to have to use it.Just wish I could feel calmer like you do!
 
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what meds do you think would be best for me
To give my mind a break? I’m desperate.
my psychologist isn’t great Idont Really click with her but I’ve also been speaking to a therapist who is amazing. I’m starting to feel better the ocd is less. I’m waiting on an anti depressent to hopefully help me. For now I have Valium as a PIP but don’t want to have to use it.Just wish I could feel calmer like you do!
The beta blocker Propranolol for anxiety
The benzo Klonopin for anxiety, panic and sleep
Mirtazapine (anti-depressant that works on dopamine) for sleep and depression
Trazodone (old school anti-depressant) for sleep
The antihistamine Hydroxyzine HCL 25mg for sleep and anxiety

With all of these you should be able to wake up for your baby then go back to sleep.
 
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My anxiety is an all time high. I’ve been diagnosed with heart disease during my pregnancy , have a newborn, lack of sleep etc. On top of that my anxiety is bad so I keep waking with a racing heart. I keep panicking that this could make my heart worse but I have been told by a specialist that anxiety will not damage my heart further.
But I still worry what if she is wrong? And that keeps my anxiety there and my racing heart.
i know I’m meant to accept the uncertainty but never understand how? I am tempted to repeat over to myself I don’t know if it will harm my heart but that feels a compulsion. I guess im supposed to just accept the feeling of anxiety racing heart etc snd not feed any of my thoughts?
i have to get better for my children I love them so much I’m determined to do anything but my latest therapist didn’t understand pure ocd so wasn’t helpful. I need some advise to really help me and I will really try to put it in place.
what am I supposed to do with this situation just not compulse or ruminate and accept my heart is racing ? When will it stop and I feel normal? Usually I would ruminate and then my heart would calm down once I get the ‘right’ feeling … thanks willing to do anything to get over this. X
I'm a mother, and now a grandmother. I raised 4 children. I remember worrying about each baby and my own health. I went to see a therpist just to talk to someone about it. It really helped. A lot! My daughted has anxiety and takes medication for it. Her doctor, wrongly, told her to abruptly stop taking it when she found out she was pregnant. She ended up in the hospital for treatment. It was the best thing that could have happened. She got the help she needed and is now a happy Mom of two. Getting help is the best suggestion I can offer. You do not need to suffer alone. Sending you a big Mom/Grandma hug and hope you feel better soon. You are not alone Honey.
 
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DaisyLaCrazy

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The beta blocker Propranolol for anxiety
The benzo Klonopin for anxiety, panic and sleep
Mirtazapine (anti-depressant that works on dopamine) for sleep and depression
Trazodone (old school anti-depressant) for sleep
The antihistamine Hydroxyzine HCL 25mg for sleep and anxiety

With all of these you should be able to wake up for your baby then go back to sleep.
Thanks. Not sure which of these I can take with my heart meds I am on. Already on beta blockers at the highest dose. Just started two new meds and side effects is anxiousness and nervousness. Great for someone like me. Tonight I can’t relax at all and my heart although not racing due to my meds feels like it wants to if that makes sense and I’m fully aware of it.
before I had kids I managed to control my anxiety and had moments of calm for months on end. I thought I had recovered. Then I had my son and the anxiety has been there since. I want to get back to that happy go lucky girl again so bad ! I know I have to help myself but I hope I find a med that I can take and will help!!
 
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Hi ladies. Just an update. I have spoken to three different medical professionals , consultant, cardiologist and nurse specialist in heart disease. All told me that anxiety won’t harm my heart. Even my psychologist told me it won’t. Yet I still doubt them all and think what if it has and could because online it mentions in some places that stress and anxiety can cause it. But I know I should listen to professionals it’s just my ocd doubting them :( and keeping the anxiety there.

also I am on 2mg Valium (pointless dose IMO) but it does help me get better quality sleep I take once a week as dr won’t prescribe me daily.My cardiologist has suggested citalopram - will that help me sleep and switch off? When my dad died last year I took amitryptiline and it really helped but now I can’t due to my heart meds!

I worry valium may stop my heart because it’s a muscle relaxant. But I need sleep as it helps me be less anxious if I sleep well.

my anxiety at the moment means I just get stuck on everything - doubt my own thoughts opinions and even when my son who is 2 almost 3says something i sometimes think why did he say thatb(even though I know why) but just over thinking things hard to explain - like he saw a yo-yo in shop window and said mummy what is that. I want one. And it’s like my brain gets stuck on why people say and do things - it’s a really strange ocd theme and hard to explain and also so draining as it’s almost every little thing I get caught up on. Does anyone else have this with their ocd.

having a newborn Also doesn’t help I know. Just wish I could take a calming tablet to help me sleep every night

they don’t prescribe much in the UK. I’ve been gettting pins and needles throughout my body been told that’s anxiety (I think because I’m breathing tense?) and blood flow not as good but again worry about my heart !! Such a viscious circle. Get horrible thoughts at times , like I hate my mother in law and panic I will die and she will take over or I look at my kids and think I hope I’m always around for them. This heart issue has just really triggered my ocd and anxiety so I need meds , my psychologist isn’t Great but changing to one trained in heart disease.
Anyway thanks for listening. Hoping to sleep tonight and see a bit clearer tomorrow.

just wish I could believe in myself And my own thoughts more.

night all x
 
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