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Can a bad situation ever be fixed?

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yewotc90

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Does anyone believe that even the worst of situations can be fixed? Ended up in a situation caused by some bad decisions myself and some the other person (s) fault. People are calling me crazy without knowing the full story - some of which I'm not proud of. But it's starting to affect my depression badly, with family commenting how quiet I am
 
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Depends on the bad situation, some things can be fixed others can't. :hug:
If a situation can't be fixed, dor you think with time and medication there's ever a way you can stop it affecting you? At the moment I've tried going out for drink with the brother, but couldn't relax as mind was just thinking about everything. Funny thing is brother was involved partly and he's just able to enjoy himself like water off a ducks back
 
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If a situation can't be fixed, dor you think with time and medication there's ever a way you can stop it affecting you? At the moment I've tried going out for drink with the brother, but couldn't relax as mind was just thinking about everything. Funny thing is brother was involved partly and he's just able to enjoy himself like water off a ducks back
i think given enough time, anything can stop affecting you :hug:

even if you also go on medication :hug:
 
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Without more context we're all just going to be doing guess work.

Lots of debt. Yes can be fixed with time and dedication.
Chopped your leg off? Probably can't be.

Really depends on the situation. Even to your second post on the thread that's down to situation too.
 
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Just because something can’t be fixed thought doesn’t mean you can’t heal from it. And just because your brother seems okay doesn’t mean he’s not struggling in his own way too. It’s okay if you need more time than him.
 
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It's basically someone online messaging people to make me look bad and I'm guessing they've left out the hurtful stuff they've said/done

I was running this fan page with a girl (call her A) and it kinda became strained. She kept wanting to end it because it was too pressured - partly my fault I guess - wanting to be the best, I suggested one post a day where we really thought about it. But then she'd say she wanted to end it, and then kept coming back to give it another go

Anyway, the old social media "seen" on our messages has played havoc with my anxiety. There's been so many she's read and not replied and then I worried myself silly she was either ignoring or annoyed with something i'd said - caused me to send millions of texts and messages worrying about her ignoring etc. Made me feel awful saying she'd cut her army husband off on a call because of my messages. I recently suggested myself trying turning read receipts off so I couldn't get anxious over them

It seemed to be working until another fan page messaged another page pretending to be us. (A) asked me about it and I was honest and said I used to run that page with a girl (call her T) who had sent threats to a celeb and when I found out I quit. This made A flip and call quits again like I'd said I had sent the threats, she also said I didn't do anything but the thing was a lot of fans knew about T and reported her tweets at the time

So basically now this A has gone off to other fans telling them about all my messages - guessing leaving out about the fact I suffer with anxiety. And also told them I was "invovled" with someone who sent threats - not even giving me chance to explain a few had reported the tweets to Twitter at the time 10 years ago - now have people in the fan base calling me crazy

I'm guessing A also left out the fact I discovered she and another girl (D) had set up a fake Twitter and had been bullying another Twitter page for months with it. D also told me I have nothing and sponge of the government and then a few days later messaged me from on instagram apparently wanting to apologise and then turned out she meant none of it as they've just continued telling everyone about my millions of texts/messages and the involved with someone who sent threats
 
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Sad thing is before all this. The fan page me and A were running was very successful with the celeb loving it, but A & D messaged celebs tour manager probably leaving half the story out

My brother being supportive said the thing is A & D don't know me in person, what matters is those that know me in real life and he said that I never know who I might end up being friends with further on with in real life who might know this tour manager or people who've heard stuff and say well actually I know her in person and she's a really lovely person
 
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I agree with your brother. Just try to shake it off. It doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. Your anxiety can also be addressed if it isn’t yet though and that could help you.
 
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I also agree with your brother. Its very fortunate these people dont know you in real life. It still feels awful and humiliating for someone to emotionally harm you and get away with it. Ive been in a situation where i was seen as the bad guy but really wasnt because i couldnt defend myself. Sometimes these things happen...
Yes, eventually these things pass with time. You may even laugh at it one day when its behind you.
If i were you, id shut the fan page down. Maybe even post something explaining things from your point of view and that this bullying needs to stop. But the post is optional. Im not even sure how fan pages work. All i know is, if you can defend yourself in some way or another, even if it dosnt convince people, itll at least give you some closure before you let all this go.
 
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Thanks guys :)

There are a couple of things that would make me look bad and not sure whether I bring them up in an apology - 1 was my brother did say something pretty mean back to (D) more in retaliation being the protective brother after they'd told me I have nothing and sponge off the government. I know him and know he would never truly have meant what he said

The other wasn't very well thought out - but he got (A)'s number from my phone and texted being from a helpline concerned about her because he could see I was worried about (A) and he thought it would get her to respond 🙈 again in his way caring for me but not well thought out

And the last was I said to (A) and (D) that their comments and fake apology had me feeling about the worst I'd felt mentally - but I said it because it was true
 
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I knowthe above probably sounds awful
 
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i personally believe you should have your own back. you don't need to confess to anything within your apology.
 
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sometimes there is too much water under the bridge thats all i got to say
 
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I have never been sure of that saying.

But for me there's too much water under the bridge for me to deal with as for my own well being I have had to let it go,
Like they say blood is thicker than water,
Umm..I'd rather drink water thanks
 
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