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megirl

megirl

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Life was a bugger I got bullied at school and at home
So at school I didn't want to be there and I didn't want to go home either.
School was the least of two evils.
In my head at least I knew I would never be like them
My mother and my brothers..linking at my mother what gave mW a lot of strength and power was I thought 'I WILL NEVER EVER BE LIKE YOU!!!
that gave me some kind of goal to strive for
I think if I lowered myself to her standard I would be dead by now
No I rose above it
 
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Ramson mash

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Bullies are opportunists and without a doubt will prey on those who they think will show the least resistance. By this logic the best method do deal with bullies is to punch them in the face.
Violence solves nothing eh? Well you are wrong....
 
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Ramson mash

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What if you cant do that Ramson? Then try to feel sorry for yourself and hope that empathy will save you, the victim. Good luck with your endurance and keeping your shit together whilst taking daily abuse.
I still say punch them in the face...
 
megirl

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Well my mother used to hit me I never even botherd shoving her be awesome to go around hit her in the face,
Except she would get all the sympathy in the world grr..don't get me started
 
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Zoe1

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in my younger days I slipped sometimes
into fighting back
but if its a long term thing going on
I found I had to stop fighting back
in order to rise out of the situation

because if its investigated by social workers
they expect you to be accountable for your side of the fights
and they cant always tell ' who started it '
if you are regularly fighting someone

it depends

like if someone is attacked in the street
by a total stranger
then it might be a good idea to fight back

again it depends
I was pursued in the next city once
by someone dead creepy , well two different occasions actually
and my instinct with those people
was to chat to them until I reached a bus or a safe place
where I could lose them
 
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burn-it-down

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I've been bullied a lot in middle school by my own "best friends" at the time. Silly story, it all began because of a girl.

It started with my classmates making fun of me in every existing way mostly about my appearence and physical state (i was skinny at that time) and ended with a whole school including the staff bullying me within 8 months only, i was both physically and mentally abused everyday and had to hide in the WC to have some times alone. Had to go to another establishment.

I've had chronical depression from that, it took me 4 years to finally be able to develop "normal" relationships with people around me.

Sadly the scars are still deep and not completely healed, i struggle a lot with BPD, PTSD, paranoid disorder (and maybe depression who knows). I had to deal (and still do) with this all by myself.

I can understand how bullies affect your future and life, but the positive part is that it makes you a better, stronger, and tougher person.
No one's more badass than you, believe me.
 
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