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Break Up and Moving Back Home

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HollyR

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Hi guys,

A little update on what's been going on with me in the last few days.

Me and my partner have ended our relationship, it wasn't anyone's fault but things happen sometimes. He couldn't cope anymore with my mental health because he didn't understand but he tried his best. I also couldn't cope, it was a mutual decision, it was the most civil break up I've ever experienced.

I've moved back into my Mum and Dad's, and my whole life is in the back of our people carrier, so it's safe to say I feel pretty crappy about the whole situation. I've had to start sorting out all of the final bills, and as everything is in my name it's up to me to sort out. He never paid as much as he should towards bills, and never wanted a joint account, so it's made it really hard for me as I now have to borrow money off my parents.

I've left my job as well, I need a break from everything for next week or two, and I'll then look for a little part time job to have some money coming in. I've started smoking again but it's either than or hurt myself as my emotions are just so fucked up at the minute. My partner owes me loads of money for the final bills and my half of the things he's decided to keep. Hoping it gets sorted soon so I can move on with my life, but I need to focus on myself and getting better. Going to the doctors to change my medication soon so hopefully that'll have a positive effect on my mental well being.

My therapist said I've been doing really well to cope with all of this, as it's been two days since the break up. I know everything will be okay in the end, but at the minute it's just really tough to cope, I'm not eating because I have zero appetite as well. I love him so much and will miss him, he said the same and we cried together too. He was lovely but just not right for me and that's okay.

I have a lot of support around me so I feel very lucky, but at the moment I'm focusing on myself and nothing else.
 
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Lunar Lady

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Holly, you've been extremely brave and sensible.

Hope you can rest and lick your wounds for a few weeks. Sending you so much love :hug:
 
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Jaye8525

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Your acceptance of the situation is admirable.

All you can do is your best and try to learn something new about yourself with each day.

Embrace the warmth of those around you. Never feel that you are a hinderence. That feeling will pass as quickly as it comes over you.
 
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Greg90

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Take as long as you need to rest up and focus on yourself Holly :) you have great support around you, and like Lunar and Jaye have said above, you've made a sensible decision and definitely don't feel like a hinderance.

We're in a really similar situation, and for the first few days I couldn't get out of bed, couldn't eat for 3 or 4, couldn't even make a brew without crying my eyes out in the kitchen for about a week and a half! You're not alone and things gradually improve, with ups and downs along the way of course.

Be kind to yourself :)
 
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HollyR

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Your acceptance of the situation is admirable.

All you can do is your best and try to learn something new about yourself with each day.

Embrace the warmth of those around you. Never feel that you are a hinderence. That feeling will pass as quickly as it comes over you.
Thank you, it feels nice to be looked after properly for a change x
 
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HollyR

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Take as long as you need to rest up and focus on yourself Holly :) you have great support around you, and like Lunar and Jaye have said above, you've made a sensible decision and definitely don't feel like a hinderance.

We're in a really similar situation, and for the first few days I couldn't get out of bed, couldn't eat for 3 or 4, couldn't even make a brew without crying my eyes out in the kitchen for about a week and a half! You're not alone and things gradually improve, with ups and downs along the way of course.

Be kind to yourself :)
Thank you, the last few days have been hard with food and what not, and being emotional from time to time. But I'm focusing on myself now and nothing for the time being. I'm going to get a little part time job and work myself up again :)
 
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