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Breaching my CTO to be put back in hospital

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nightmare57

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I'm very unhappy where I live. I living in supported living and since this new person moved in peeing and pooping everywhere because he can't be bothered using the toilet this house has become very unhygienic and has started to smell. The management have implemented things like having washable pads on chairs but he decides not to sit on them because his faeces is on it so sits on the other settee spreading faeces and urine on that one too. I have been very patient but my concerns are not listened too. This person gets a large package so all their interested in is the money.

I'm due my depot on Wednesday. I'm thinking about not going to it. I don't want to live here anymore. If I refuse the next week they will recall me back on my CTO. If I refuse the depot they will restrain me and keep me in hospital, once they have given me the depot will they discharge me back into the community even though I will be refusing to leave the hospital until they find me somewhere else to live? What would happen?

This supported living company is making me feel like I'm wrong complaining about all the pee and poop contamination everywhere. i have said if it's contained I will be okay with it. I have rang social services and although they are investigating they are not doing anything about it at the moment. I have to wait until my social worker gets back off sick for them to arrange to move me which could take months.

Do you think if I refuse my meds and they have to move me although I'm stable do you think they'll take me more seriously and do something about it and not brush it under the carpet they they usually do? Am I being unreasonable with the contamination risk and hygienic risk?
 
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I would want to move definitely. It sounds horrific. You are perfectly entitled to want to move. Keep pushing until its done.
 
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Thank you.

The thing is they are saying give him a chance that he's incontinent, how does it make him feel me openly complaining about it. The thing is I haven't got a problem with him being incontinent. I use pads and the staff now that, it's contained with me. I am discreet Apart from one time there hasn't been any complaints from other tenants. The manager has tried to compare my 'problems' with his. Well I'm not leaving poop stains everywhere and peeing everywhere. I do suffer continence problems which is much different then peeing an pooping everywhere because he can't be bothered to use the toilet. To try and compare us both is just insulting.

Do you think I'm making a making a mountain out of a molehill? Do you think they have to take it seriously? I don't want to spend 10 months in hospital to find somewhere else to live because I have been stable for 7 years but feel like I have no choose. Do you think if I refuse my depot they will have to listen because I think this supported living company isn't telling the whole truth back to social services and making it out better than what it is.
 
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Try not to worry. It is a serious health risk IMO. It sounds like they are trying to bully you a bit.
 
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Am I being unreasonable...
no.. you are not being unreasonable.. i would refuse to live like that as well.. you are not the problem, he is.. and they need to do something about him.. you can't live like that.. Its effecting your own recovery.. You're already talking about refusing your depot.. they need to sort this out.. and quickly

Its not you
 
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reminds me of this man that pooped on the floor on the ward. It smelt so foul it set off other patients to vomit. It was horrific!
 
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This had made me really depressed and my daydreaming about suicide has retured. I don't see a future anymore.
 
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they always say the neighbour who is a problem is vulnerable but so are the other neighbours, it's about time they are concerned about them, but the problem neighbour is worth more money and quite often has social workers to defend him
 
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Hi,
Your not being unreasonable, you shouldn't have to move. Can't they put pads on him to stop him pooping and peeing everywhere.
I wouldn't want to sit in someone else's poo or pee either.
You should be listened to.
Please don't refuse your depo, it will make things worse.
Hope this gets resolved ASAP for you.
Take care
 
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He's been in hospital for 3 years before coming here so I would of thought they would of dealt with these issues before moving him here. They only give you pads if your incontinent not if you peeing and pooping because of complete apathy.
 
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Awful situation. You shouldn't be expected to live like that. He should be moved until he is ready to live with other people.

I have no idea how to get help with this - perhaps talk to Environmental Health Department at your local Council, or even your local MP. There must be health risks as well as it being unbearable. Also talk to the duty officer or Manager while your social worker is away and say you cannot wait.

no one can help being incontinent, but it can and should be managed.

Wish you all the best with this

Sarah
 
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Things have improved a little bit. We have 2/3 days where nothing happens then something happens and it back to square one. My supported living manager has been great about it after hearing from her that the company didn't know the full extent of his problems, the hospital was very liberal on the truth so they could get him out of hospital, once he was here it's hard to move him.
 
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Things have improved a little bit. We have 2/3 days where nothing happens then something happens and it back to square one. My supported living manager has been great about it after hearing from her that the company didn't know the full extent of his problems, the hospital was very liberal on the truth so they could get him out of hospital, once he was here it's hard to move him.
and maybe he needs somewhere to live and where else the street
 
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If I was you I would be sleeping in the back garden in protest. Seriously I have a very delicate stomach,I would only last five mins. I understand he might have mh illness, or other physical problems but they ought to think about the impact he has on others. I mean I bet the staff don't like it and they don't have to live there!

Seriously I would go and kip in the back garden and not go back in until something was done about it. The staff would have to do something then because they have a responsibility not just to him but you also and it will be getting very cold soon.
 
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