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I often read how being diagnosed with bpd is like a light bulb moment for many sufferers. How things suddenly fall into place and they recognise all the signs in themselves. A kind of turning point I suppose.
I too recognised all the symptoms in myself and with further reading felt a familiarity with what others were saying.
But...I don't like to label myself as having bpd. I prefer to see it as I'm just not coping with life very well for a whole variety of reasons.
I find being labelled with bpd a noose around my neck. It constricts me and slots me tidily into a system where therapy, treatment plans and medication are the holy grail to recovery.
But having followed the expert advice and the treatment plans I find myself no further forward. In fact if anything i am more confused, isolated, and distant than ever.
So yes I am diagnosed with bpd but No... this is not who i am. I am me. A human being who struggles against the changing tides of life along with millions of other people. No amount of medication or therapy will ever change who I am. Only acceptance and letting go of the past will free my mind from suffering. Change will not come from books, courses, therapy etc...it will only come from within.
 
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I had the lightbulb moment, however I’ve heard off telling anyone really as I don’t want the label and I want to work on myself, I need therapy for the trauma I’ve had but the rest is hard work and has to come from deep inside me and changing patterns and my minds thoughts, I won’t take tablets, it’s not for me, I want to feel and live my life.

Meditating I find helps me hugely and positive affirmations, daily, several times a day to help me change from within and reading up all I can so I understand and trying to really be aware, it’s a full time job just staying in check!
 
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I had the lightbulb moment, however I’ve heard off telling anyone really as I don’t want the label and I want to work on myself, I need therapy for the trauma I’ve had but the rest is hard work and has to come from deep inside me and changing patterns and my minds thoughts, I won’t take tablets, it’s not for me, I want to feel and live my life.

Meditating I find helps me hugely and positive affirmations, daily, several times a day to help me change from within and reading up all I can so I understand and trying to really be aware, it’s a full time job just staying in check!
I meditate lots and write a lot too. Just struggling at the moment but hopefully the ups will join the downs soon 🙂
 
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I get that I also lose focus, but I try and I also journal, it does help, we have to be so aware all the time and it’s hard
 
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If it works better for you to consider your mental health condition as being a cluster of behavioral or perhaps thought patterns which aren't working for you, I think that's totally fine. Diagnosis is helpful in a sense that now you know you're the only person struggling with this cluster and there is a reason why you are struggling besides life.

There is no limit to your recovery based upon any diagnosis, this I believe wholeheartedly.

Recovery does require acceptance of yourself as you are (fighting what's true creates more problems) and recovery also requires a personal commitment to do things differently (change).

Striking a balance between the two--thats a tricky matter. I believe you can find that, I have to believe in you because I believe I can find it too.
 
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I can understand that. However, it is the complete opposite for me. When I got my diagnosis, people finally believed that I was abused and I was suffering. When I added it to my "no soliciting sign", salespeople stopped banging on my door. It gave me the reassurance that I could take a step back and heal no matter how much my family tried to guilt/bully me into what they wanted. But to each his own. My obesity doesn't define me although it's been with me my whole life. I eat healthy and sometimes like exercise. But a lot of people only see the fat.
 
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