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BPD AND ODD connection

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Letstalkandshare

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I have been researching Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) in great detail lately and think my 6 yr old child fits the criteria. I am taking the next steps necessary to help his quality of life. However ; my discussion isn't about him and his ODD. I recently broke up with a man who I believe has BPD and both disorders seem similar. Whats your opinion of Children with untreated or undiagnosed ODD, being a BPD adult. It seems like ODD is studied in children and young adults and then Thats all the information...so anyone with a view on this?
 
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Dear Letstalkandshare, I honestly don't think people should drug their children because of ODD or any other identifiable behavior that someone has decided to call a disorder. I am of the John Bradshaw school of thought; children's behavior is a FAMILY reflection. The whole family should go into therapy to help the child because the child is responding to the parents attitude. The parents benefit from family therapy because they get to become aware of their attitude. Was your child more difficult around the time when the boyfriend with BPD was involved ?? Where is the biological father ??
 
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I don't wish to put my child on medication at all. Basically I want support in being a better parent for him so he doesn't struggle with mental health. My son was 4 when me and.my husband split. We were together for 15 years and it was a very toxic narcissistic relationship. My ex for the first 2 years wasn't a good influence on our kids. Bashing me, manipulated the kids, not reliable and didn't spend much quality time. He has been improving his behavior just recently. My son is very fond to The bf with bpd because he sees us happy and I shelter him from our arguments etc. Which I couldn't shelter from him when it came.to his dad
 
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Ah !! That's much clearer. I apologize. So many people put their kids on drugs these days.

It's hard to be a parent because we still have the programming from our own parents running. You sound like a good mom, wanting to learn new skills. The defiant behavior may just be from the first marriage and it really isn't set in stone. Some good counseling sessions might help you deal with your son in a new way that is based on positive reinforcement. I went to a course on parenting given by the school district. There was a work book and it was a regular class.

I hope you find the support you need.
 
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