Good question...
There isn't a huge amount of data on sexual drive and women with BPD. That said as there are some links with abuse and some BPD individuals it would make sense that maybe there is a knock on effect in terms of being able to tolerate sexual relationships. I tend to find many people with BPD are over-sexualised if anything; I have been more than promiscuous, always in the context of feeling lonely and uncared for.
At the same time medications played havoc with my sex drive once I started on anti-depressants. For men - at least - many anti-depressant medications dull your ability to er finish or feel a sense of satisfaction sexually. I suspect there is a similar difficulty with females.
Hi my heading on this thread is very misleading I think. But I was nervous putting it out there fresh and new.
I have the same over sexualised behaviour of BPD. Having sex or instigating sex for my abandonment needs etc was never a problem. I would have sex just because I could. And get all upset when it amounted to nothing etc.
My problem was to let myself enjoy the experience. Im was warm blooded horn dog on the outside ice queen on the inside.
But reading your response has had the effect I was hoping for. And that's clarity on what I need to work on. It was difficult having the symptoms of pbd and the symptoms of having been sexually abused. It was like polar opposites. I can understand now why I was so torn.
Always wanting to make others happy and fulfilled but neglecting my own needs.
Thank you. That has helped.