
katya
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Boyfriend now on the cusp of leaving me - abusive housemate situation update
In an update to this thread, my boyfriend is now on the cusp of leaving me.
I've gone to my mum and dad's and will be staying at my colleague's in order to remove myself from the abusive situation at our shared house.
My boyfriend sees this as me abandoning him because he has nowhere else to go. He thinks I've not handled the situation properly by leaving so abruptly (I had to be sent home from work because I was too distressed by the situation to teach). He doesn't want a "weekend relationship" and he thinks the only outcome will be for him to get a one-bedroom flat at the end of our tenancy, because he's unwilling to move out with me until I have a secure job for September (I have a year contract at the school I'm at).
I don't know what to do?
I'm finally putting myself first by getting out of this situation, but that seems to be alienating my boyfriend whom I love very dearly. I don't want to lose him, but at the same time I know I can't stay in that abusive environment and secure my job and secure both our futures.
He seems unwilling to budge on this...
I think this might actually be the end. I'm trying desperately now to get him to see it from my point of view and to compromise a bit - I shouldn't be expected to put up with that situation and he should be the first person trying to get me out - but I honestly don't know whether he will.
This is fucking terrible.
In an update to this thread, my boyfriend is now on the cusp of leaving me.
I've gone to my mum and dad's and will be staying at my colleague's in order to remove myself from the abusive situation at our shared house.
My boyfriend sees this as me abandoning him because he has nowhere else to go. He thinks I've not handled the situation properly by leaving so abruptly (I had to be sent home from work because I was too distressed by the situation to teach). He doesn't want a "weekend relationship" and he thinks the only outcome will be for him to get a one-bedroom flat at the end of our tenancy, because he's unwilling to move out with me until I have a secure job for September (I have a year contract at the school I'm at).
I don't know what to do?
I'm finally putting myself first by getting out of this situation, but that seems to be alienating my boyfriend whom I love very dearly. I don't want to lose him, but at the same time I know I can't stay in that abusive environment and secure my job and secure both our futures.
He seems unwilling to budge on this...
I think this might actually be the end. I'm trying desperately now to get him to see it from my point of view and to compromise a bit - I shouldn't be expected to put up with that situation and he should be the first person trying to get me out - but I honestly don't know whether he will.
This is fucking terrible.