• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Boyfriend mild autism

P

punkyme19803

Guest
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We are getting ready to move in together. He told me has mild autism. He is 34 and I am 36. He didn't come out with it right away. He told me he has a hard time opening up about it. He says it's not really a problem for him. But I suspect it's more of a problem for him than he let's on. Sometimes he has no maotivation what so ever. I'm not sure if thats related to his autism or not. And when he gets super stressed. And if he is pushed to his limit. He will get snappy with me. And then later feel bad about it and apologize. His mom stressed him out a lot. He is currently living with her. But he hasn't always lived with her. I'm just concerned that when we move in together. That his autism may cause more of a problem in the relationship. My question is what exactly is mild autism? And what are the signs and symptoms?
 
Poopy Doll

Poopy Doll

Well-known member
Joined
Jun 13, 2015
Messages
11,502
Location
Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA
My cousin has a mild form of autism. It affects his communication skills but it doesn't affect his big heart. He is very caring and has a wife whom he adores. He is some kind of scientist in physics or something. Very smart guy.
 
Per Ardua Ad Astra

Per Ardua Ad Astra

Well-known member
Joined
Apr 15, 2014
Messages
9,061
Location
North of England, UK
People with autism are often quite friendly and warm, and have an inclination to be somewhat caring and social. One of the obstacles in our way, is that cos of our difficulties, we often find it hard to mix and socialize, and can be easily wrong-footed or outwitted, due to misunderstanding. Your cousin sounds like a very decent bloke. Kind regards :)
 
A

ASD_and_Tea

Member
Joined
May 2, 2019
Messages
5
Location
Glasgow
It may cause problems in some small ways, like him feeling he needs things to happen or be done in a certain way. The times where he feels no motivation to do anything are normal for someone on the spectrum and they just need to be worked through and you need to let those phases end more naturally I think. Relationships are hard in general for people on the spectrum, more than they are for the average person but the most important thing is to make sure that you are still communicating with each other and to encourage him to tell you what is on his mind. In terms of signs and symptoms of mild autism, it is hard to say without knowing him person, since autism affects everyone differently. Usually when it's mild, it affects social communication more than anything else. Autism in boys usually manifests itself with them coming across sometimes as quite blunt or even arrogant or very quick to express their opinion and being rather unintentionally insensitive. However, this is not the case for everyone and he may in fact be on the other end, where he may tend to overanalyse everything and be very prone to anxiety and 'depression phases', as I call them, which may explain his need to apologise a lot. It mostly affects the emotions, so you may witness fits of anger or even full-on meltdowns at which point I would discuss with him what you can do in those situations to stop them escalating or to help him. I may be speaking utter nonsense and this may not resonate with you at all but autism affects everyone in different ways so I would suggest sitting him down and asking him yourself how he feels his autism affects him before going on to ask if there is anything you need to do to make things easier for him.
 
Top