- Apr 24, 2019
Out of the blue my boyfriend broke down just over a week ago and said he is feeling really down and anxious. He is showing all the signs of depression such as he says he feels numb and doesn’t care about anyone or anything, he can’t sleep, he has so much going on in his head and can’t process any of it and he feels withdrawn. For about 6 days he kept saying ‘I dunno’ when anyone asked what was wrong and then he finally opened up to me saying everything is wrong. He said he is having a bad time at work which I already knew about as he was struggling a few months ago and that he doesn’t know if he doesn’t care about me because he is feeling down or if our relationship is causing him to feel down so he is battling in his head. When he was having a bad time at work a few months ago he started taking antidepressants and then stopped them suddenly about a month ago because he felt ok which I know is absolutely not the right thing to do. I feel his work is the main factor in causing his depression combined with stopping the tablets suddenly. I know deep down he wants to be with me as I suggested splitting but he said no and when I suggested time apart for a few days which is something he mentioned, he broke down and said no. I feel he wants me around but he doesn’t want to kiss me, hug me or even hold my hand at all which is so sad. Is the fact he wants me around a good thing even if he can’t bring himself to show affection towards me? I want to support him through this and hope he gets better but it is so hard not knowing what to do or where I even stand with him. He said he doesn’t want to speak to a counsellor as he will feel like he is cracking up having therapy as well as taking tablets but I know this is something that will help him. He has never been this bad before and I just need reassurance that our relationship will be ok and that he will want to kiss and cuddle me again. He has only been on the tablets again for a week and a half so I know they haven’t taken full effect yet but I’m struggling with knowing what to do and I need hope that things could get better again.