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Blue and in need of a guide

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Bobbyewing

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Bad day. Drank last night. I should not really. I'm meant to give it up.
I do talk to a Councellor occasionally and read books on giving up the booze.
But my life just feels blue. I'm over weight. Don't feel energised by my job teaching.
Marriage in stasis the last few years because of booze and mental health.
I'm not an AA person. I don't like meetings. I think AA peddles some strange ideas but whatever works for you.
 
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I'm sorry that your life feels blue, your not being energized, and that your marriage is in stasis.

I've read that substance abuse/dependence increases the risk of associated psychiatric disorders. The most common disorders are depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and personality disorders. Depression is usually secondary to alcohol dependence.

I've also read that treatment involves counseling, such as behavioral therapy, and medications that reduce the desire to drink. Some people need medical detoxification to stop drinking safely. Mutual support groups help people stop drinking, manage relapses and cope with necessary lifestyle changes.
 
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In AA i think guides are called sponsors. There are some very intelligent and wonderful people there. It is a huge surprise to me, shouldn't be, but there are many people with amazing jobs and great lives who just are alcohol dependent for some reason. A friend of mine has severe anxiety and alcohol helps her, but she cannot stop drinking once she starts which is so sad. She is doing well at the moment though.

People with an alcohol problem find they have to completely stop, not even have one sip or one glass, but stop dead, no more ever again. AA is a place where people learn how to give up and are supported in that.

I can imagine what you mean by strange views although i have never been to a meeting myself. It seems like it might be a bit, i can't think of the word, not my style, but if i were in your situation i would try anything.

Are you unhappy? Are there traumas in your past or are you depressed? Do you know why you drink too much? Counselling is good but maybe you should look in to psychotherapy or something more in depth that counselling. Your doctor may be able to help too. I have come across a few teachers with alcohol problems so it is nothing to be embarrassed about, many people struggle with it.
 
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The problem with AA is its disease model of booze which has no medical evidence.
I don't feel embarrassed to have a drink problem because booze is a con game. Addictive substance
 
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