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Kingdom Man
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Hello Everybody!!
I'm brand new to this site, seems like a great community of people helping people.
I'm here to help but also seeing guidance for my own personal situation. I met a woman online and she has Bipolar l and I have depression and anxiety. We talked for a few months and everything was going very well and we began dating, shortly after we had started dating, about a month, she broke things off. All she stated was that she didn't feel ready to be in a relationship and also saying " this is just what I do, I don't want to hurt you". Up until this point I was her "Mr. Right". I did notice that as things went along she started saying things like " you're good and I'm bad" told her mother " he's to good for me" " I don't feel I deserve this" meaning a good relationship. I know she also told her mother that it's not me, that she's just shutting down.
She has a past filled with physical abuse, guys that took advantage of her, rape, molestation, alcoholic father.
I've been doing as much research as possible to understand bipolar and what she goes through with it.
Am I experiencing a switch from manic to depression? I do understand overwhelm is part of it.
Of course I want us to be together again, but more importantly, I just want to help her, but it's hard when she has slammed the door shut and it seems I just trigger her into anxiety. I'm doing some things to gently let her know that I'm still here for her and I won't abandon her.
Any advise of how I can help her through this?
I'm brand new to this site, seems like a great community of people helping people.
I'm here to help but also seeing guidance for my own personal situation. I met a woman online and she has Bipolar l and I have depression and anxiety. We talked for a few months and everything was going very well and we began dating, shortly after we had started dating, about a month, she broke things off. All she stated was that she didn't feel ready to be in a relationship and also saying " this is just what I do, I don't want to hurt you". Up until this point I was her "Mr. Right". I did notice that as things went along she started saying things like " you're good and I'm bad" told her mother " he's to good for me" " I don't feel I deserve this" meaning a good relationship. I know she also told her mother that it's not me, that she's just shutting down.
She has a past filled with physical abuse, guys that took advantage of her, rape, molestation, alcoholic father.
I've been doing as much research as possible to understand bipolar and what she goes through with it.
Am I experiencing a switch from manic to depression? I do understand overwhelm is part of it.
Of course I want us to be together again, but more importantly, I just want to help her, but it's hard when she has slammed the door shut and it seems I just trigger her into anxiety. I'm doing some things to gently let her know that I'm still here for her and I won't abandon her.
Any advise of how I can help her through this?