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Bipolar Infidelity

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LightMeUp

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I'll keep this short and sweet......I feel that there is a lot of light shed on the consequences of spending far too much money during manic episodes and though we all know how disastrous that can be, what about Infidelity and the drastic impact that has on the people suffering and the people on the receiving end. So can anyone share there Bipolar manic infidelity stories.

LMU:)
 
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Joseph_clucky

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My marriage ended due to my sexual deviancy. I am not diagnosed but the more I read the more I feel I connect to the symptoms.
I have five children to possibly five men. With sex I am a goddess, I'm undefeatable. I always get what I want. Even if I want my friends husbands or wives.
I feel on top of the world & I have no thought for where I do it or whether I use protection.
 
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Callalily

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Well I am not married or in a relationship and I think the thought of hurting someone through my depressed and hypomanic episodes has a lot to do with this.
 
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Joseph_clucky

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I don't feel any guilt or remorse for anything I have done. And I have done a LOT. I used to have sex in my living room while my husband was in bed. I've had multiple partners at once and my friends think my stories are outrageous and funny.
I maybe should be ashamed but I'm not. The thing I am ashamed about is falling in love with a man that was clearly using me for my amazing sex
 
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Callalily

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I don't feel shame at the time, but looking back, my head is firmly hanging at a lot of the things I have done when manic
 
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Joseph_clucky

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I don't know whether I've been manic or whether I'm just a dirty little wh0re
 
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Callalily

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Oh, don't call yourself that. I think you can tell if you are manic if your behaviours, any behaviours - not just sexual, are the norm or if they are out of character and only happen at certain times, when other things are also happening?
 
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Joseph_clucky

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I'm am alway right, other people get in the way because they are so slow. If they interrupt my thoughts I am overcome with rage
 
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Callalily

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And is that how you feel all the time or just some of the time?
 
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Joseph_clucky

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I'm mostly sad, worthless & just go through the motions for the sake of my kids
 
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LightMeUp

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Right now, I'm living the normal 'apple pie' life it is what I always wanted for my life. A fiance, a house, a child and a supportive family. This is who I am. Or at least who I thought I was. During 'Mania' I turn into the complete opposite of what I just described above. It's like I am a complete stranger. I see myself single, no commitments, I want to sleep around and play the field. I even told my fiance this, I didn't care about hurting his feelings I knew what i wanted and it felt right to say, I was undefeteble. But then looking back when I'm feeling normal I am astonished at what I have said. Sometimes I even forget why I have upset someone and have to be told what I have done wrong because I can't remember. I even started pole dancing and lap dancing for christs sake! You would think I was two different people.

LMU:)
 
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suzy

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True i have no stories


Always been faithful

Am i really bipolar? I've only ever had one episode, feel so lucky i never did anything like that and now stable 5 years. Sometimes yeah I think I'm misdiagnosed, but i understand this behavior in bipolar however i strongly feel its not an excuse to sleep with someone else, and it would take a strong partner to understand
 
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katielouisemc

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When my partner is hypomanic he trawls the internet for porn constantly and has talked to women on the internet about what he'd like to do to them. On occasion it has stretched further and he's flirted and 'sexted' women closer to home like women he works with or with women he's met when he goes out on a bender. To my knowledge he's never actually cheated on me so part of me is grateful that he hasn't gone that far but the rest of it has been just as damaging to my self esteem.

Back when I didn't know what was wrong with him I took it very personally - I felt ugly and like I just wasn't enough. I know that's not the case and that to some extent he couldn't control it but it's painful. I think the only thing that kept me from walking away was his absolute horror at the things he'd done once he was more stable - I know he loves me and I know he doesn't need or want anyone else, it's just an impulse he can't always control.

There are limits though - as much as I love him and totally understand he can't help it, if I ever found out he'd actually cheated on me he knows I'd leave. I wouldn't be able to get over that and it would do us both more harm than good if I pretended otherwise.
 
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Joseph_clucky

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You must have a lot of love for him and I'm sure he knows this x
 
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katielouisemc

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I definitely do and he knows he's a lucky man! :D All those things happened pre-diagnosis and while he was untreated. We haven't had a hypomanic episode since he's been on the medication and it's early days but fingers crossed! xx
 
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