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Bipolar ex-gf broke up with me while on a mushroom trip in Bali.

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grumpymonkey

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Hi guys,

Obviously, I need help. My girlfriend broke up with me a week ago while she was on a mushroom trip. She said she wants to focus on herself and that I need to do that, too. This is the first time that we’ve broken up and never got back together like just a few hours after. She said that she’s feeling too pressured to cater to my “demands” like updating me if she’s okay or what she’s doing because she’s on vacation. I just couldn’t seem to understand how quick it was for her to do that because just a few hours bedore that, she told me “I am so grateful for your existence.” She was telling me how much she loves me and that she can’t lose me. I am still in shock and I still couldn’t understand. She arrived a few days ago and we talked about it. She said she’s been thinking about it for a while now because she hurt me (physically) and she said she needs to heal... We have had issues in the past and she is kinda right when she said “I don’t want to argue everyday. That’s toxic.” But we have had a lot of happy moments, it’s not always arguing... maybe she’s just too pressured to think straight right now.

I feel somewhat betrayed that she didn’t tell me during a heart-to-heart talk that she was really feeling this way.

Now, here is the tricky part. Ever since she got back from Indonesia, we have been seeing each other almost everyday. The first day was awkward, but the next was great. It seemed like nothing’s changed, but the days after that, she became somewhat distant. She keeps telling me that I should give up because this would never work. She keeps telling me she’s not worth it and that I should go on with my life, but I can’t... because I love her so dearly. She keeps pushing me away, I get frustrated and offended... but I would always come around. I would always choose her at the end of the day. I just couldn’t imagine her battling this thing alone.

I want to understand all of this because I love her, and she said she loves me, too, and that I shouldn’t worry because she does love me... But the way she acts sometimes shows otherwise... she even said she’s just slowly detaching from me. But I don’t believe her entirely because I know that she might be saying these things. especially tonight.

What could be happening to her right now? Could someone please tell me. I am in shambles because we were supposed to go overseas together next year for work and now I’m going to spend Christmas and New Years without having someone to call the love of my life. :(


PLEASE HELP ME. ANY INSIGHT WOULD BE GREAT, BUT I REALLY NEED SOME GUIDANCE ON HOW I COULD BE THERE FOR HER AND HOW TO TREAT HER BETTER.
 
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