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Bipolar and Relationships

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Shisimona

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Good Day everyone. I was diagnosed 13 years ago today with Bipolar I and II or as the doctor called Mixed. I was 20 and now 33. My symptoms were extreme. I was hospitalized for a year due to the extreme symptoms I had. For the first little while, the meds had very little effect on me. The dosage of my meds were changing every 2 weeks. After 6 weeks, things were starting to get stable. At 3 months, the meds and dosages was starting help a lot. Then 6 months, I was 100% stable and on meds and the dosages that kept me that way. But they wanted to keep me in longer due to the extreme symptoms I had. So, after another 6 months past, I was finally released and got to home.

It was a extreme tough year but I managed. But what I didn't realize, how hard it was going to be to get back into society. As I lived in a small town, so word gets around fast. I had next to no friends left, people would ignore me, put me down, etc. It was very emotionally and physically exhausting for me. And I could feel myself slipping back in the dark place I didn't want to be again. I started going to therapy, 3-4 times a week, for about a year. Then 2 times for another year and now 2 times a month. Things started to get easier. Started to enjoy life again.

But one thing that was never easy nor be able to get into, is a relationship. As I said, I lived in a small town, so word goes around fast. I could never get a girlfriend. The only women that would talk to me was my mom, cousins, aunt, and co-workers at whatever work place I was at. If I tried to approach, a woman i'd get instantly rejected. This was something very difficult to deal with but I tried my best to be positive. Which was hard to do at the time. Even with meds.

So that brings to the present. I have moved to different cities to live. Even today, I still get rejected by every woman. I do mention that I am Bipolar due for their safety. Maybe it's a bad idea. I'm not sure.

So, I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions that could help me out with this issue. It almost seems like I was meant to be single forever but I don't want to think that.
 
Poopy Doll

Poopy Doll

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Hi Shisimona, :welcome: to the Forum. When I met my bf I did NOT tell him I had bipolar nor did I tell him I had lupus. I let him get to know me and get a little attached to me before telling him my medical issues. We are together now 25 years.
 
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Barn Owl

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Hi Shisimona Apart from having a strange name on here you are no different from anyone else there are No perfect people in the world unless you believe in Angels.When l met my wife of now 40 years married and two children a boy and girl who is living in Australia I was not diagnosed bipolar then just with depression I was married20 years before my correct diagnosis of bipolar1 was made. What I am saying no one noticed my bipolar condition for 20 years so do not worry so much You are be.tter than you think you are
 
megirl

megirl

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Its actually quite sad. It seems ok to mention depression or anxiety to people. Then when bipolar is mentioned then I have people who have said ..so you are bipolar? No I have bipolar disorder it isn't who I am. People are so quick to judge what they actually don't know anything about
 
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