• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Binge eating and guilt

B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
I am having a miserable time tackling my binge eating episodes. After an episode, I feel guilty that I yell inside my head and I tell myself that it's all my fault, I knew better, and that I am fat and that I need mental help. My binge eating is caused by stress and boredom, but I don't know how to control myself. I want to lose weight in a healthy way but everything I tried doesn't work and I end up binge eating. I have went to the doctor for this but they gave me naltrexone I think it's called. But they haven't done anything to help me cope or control myself. Any advise?
 
S

srhnnh

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
5
Location
scotland
I struggle with binge eating sometimes, especially when trying to diet.
To help myself manage it, I decided to buy a small tub (about a 1 1/2 measuring cup size)
I decided that I can eat anything I want that isn't on my diet, to fill that tub. I get that once a day. So I can have a slice of pizza, or chocolate or anything I want but only that amount. means I don't mindlessly eat an entire pizza, or full bag of snacks etc

Also, try to be kind to yourself. I know its easier said than done but I just think of myself as a friend. if my friend broke their diet, or ate a huge lunch I would probably say something along the lines of "don't worry about it, next meal just get back on track." so why would i be kind to someone else but be cruel to myself. I still struggle sometimes but I always remind myself I need to be my own friend and im learning.

I hope this helps in any way for you.
 
B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
Thanks for the advise :) I'll give it a try.
 
zaatarHoney

zaatarHoney

Active member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
25
Location
Lost in the Sauce
The way I see some EDs are as symptoms to trauma or harshness we've been exposed to growing up. They also can be cyclical. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems as though stress/boredom cause you to binge, which perpetuates your stress. It's nearly a cycle that fuels itself.

I've never taken medication for my ED. I've seen my ED shift and change form over the years, but what really helps me get through the most of it- is cooking for myself. I incorporate a lot of vegetables, with some rice or noodles. Even adding broth sometimes. Something warm and full of flavor. Cooking for myself has felt like my own therapy. I don't feel like binging as much when I'm full of real food, and there is never guilt from eating a home-cooked meal. Another trick, is eating before you're starving. When we're stressed, or our mind is focused on responsibilities, we can forget to feed ourselves, drink water, everything.

1. Cooking, and not having my place stocked with "easy eats" like snack foods helps me.
2. Eating throughout the day, with filling foods.. not something I'll metabolize and forget I ever ate. When I make a "quick" sandwich, I chop up onions and tomatoes, and whatever I've got around that would compliment it. I toast the bread. I make it special.

I go grocery shopping once a week, somewhere local, and I shop deals. If I see coupons for produce, or sales, I'm there!

Now, as for that voice, we have to challenge that dialogue we're used to having with ourselves. It's not easy, but it's possible. Some days, it'll be harder than others. But every day you get through, is progress.

I'm here if you'd like to talk! We can even exchange recipes :)
 
B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
Thanks,
The way I see some EDs are as symptoms to trauma or harshness we've been exposed to growing up. They also can be cyclical. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems as though stress/boredom cause you to binge, which perpetuates your stress. It's nearly a cycle that fuels itself.

I've never taken medication for my ED. I've seen my ED shift and change form over the years, but what really helps me get through the most of it- is cooking for myself. I incorporate a lot of vegetables, with some rice or noodles. Even adding broth sometimes. Something warm and full of flavor. Cooking for myself has felt like my own therapy. I don't feel like binging as much when I'm full of real food, and there is never guilt from eating a home-cooked meal. Another trick, is eating before you're starving. When we're stressed, or our mind is focused on responsibilities, we can forget to feed ourselves, drink water, everything.

1. Cooking, and not having my place stocked with "easy eats" like snack foods helps me.
2. Eating throughout the day, with filling foods.. not something I'll metabolize and forget I ever ate. When I make a "quick" sandwich, I chop up onions and tomatoes, and whatever I've got around that would compliment it. I toast the bread. I make it special.

I go grocery shopping once a week, somewhere local, and I shop deals. If I see coupons for produce, or sales, I'm there!

Now, as for that voice, we have to challenge that dialogue we're used to having with ourselves. It's not easy, but it's possible. Some days, it'll be harder than others. But every day you get through, is progress.

I'm here if you'd like to talk! We can even exchange recipes :)
 
B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
Also, I would love to exchange recipes, that would be great.
 
B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
I'm into lots of meats and seafood 🙂
 
zaatarHoney

zaatarHoney

Active member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
25
Location
Lost in the Sauce
I'm into lots of meats and seafood 🙂
aa okay! I am not super into seafood, but I do incorporate meat into my meals often. Sometimes, I go a little vegetarian/vegan. It's a balance with me.

Tonight, I'm making lemon chicken over middle eastern style rice (with spinach), I'll let you know how it goes... going to be making this from memory lol. Also, we can talk over messages if you'd feel comfortable to.
 
B

Beachin my bum

Member
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
Messages
8
Location
Florida
Ok, that sounds fun. Also I'm comfortable talking over messages
 
Top