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being taken advantage of financially

daffy

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Lu ifyou do get your aunts name on your bank make sure its in joint names. Because god forbid if anything happened to your aunt you wouldnt be able to get to your money. I know you trust your aunt but you must keep your money safe. Try and be strong with yourself and when people ask just say NO you’ve had enough. What your mummy left you was to last you a long time and I’m sure shed be upset if she knew you were being taken advantage of
 
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@Ryo gives some good advice as well Lu. I dont know how much you have but after mum died i put quite a big chunk of it into a 3yr fixed savings bond. They pay higher than an isa and the monthly interest goes into my bank account. But if i wanted to withdraw from the Bond i would have to give a months notice
 
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also before giving anyone money
try to take a breath, a pause , maybe post on here,
if you can take a couple of days to decide

anything to break that compulsion to give it
I know what its like ...

I used to hand over money to my addict brother
and now I totally dont

it would also not be good for his progress
 
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Your posts make me feel sad. And I don't even know you or anything at all about the context, so it's presumptious of me to have that reaction. Are you quite isolated? Being bullied when you are unsupported by anyone else is a horrible situation (I've been briefly in that position in the past, but currently that's one of the few problems I don't have - I do fear for the future in that respect though).

Is there nobody who can give you the moral and emotional support that might help you stand up to your sister? Also you'd have to be very, very trusting of your aunt to do what you suggest. Even with someone I trust in their own right for something like that, I would be worried that they themselves might come under the influence of yet another person.
 
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