• Share. Be Supported. Recover.

    We are a friendly, safe community supporting each other's mental health. We are open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Being a control freak is destroying me :(

D

dickyjj

New member
Joined
Jun 5, 2008
Messages
3
Hi guys, I'm new here.

Well I want to know how to stop being such a control freak.
I seem to feel that the world revolves around me (obviously I know this is wrong). I feel that I call the shots in everything.

For example, I always have to be composed in everything I do.
The problem comes when, for example, I get distracted by stuff for a few seconds. There will always be distractions, which is annoying!

Anyway, in those few seconds I get distracted, I feel I am no longer in control and I take ages to recover.

Please help!!
 
D

Dollit

Guest
Welcome to the forum. This element of control you feel you must have, is it all areas of your life or just some?
 
D

dickyjj

New member
Joined
Jun 5, 2008
Messages
3
Welcome to the forum. This element of control you feel you must have, is it all areas of your life or just some?
I can't really describe it, it seems to be when I am in public, I like to call the shots and make things happen, so if something bad happens to me, I can say its my fault.
 
D

Dollit

Guest
So you assume too much responsibility in a way. Do you think that when something goes wrong you're proving to yourself that it would go wrong if you were in control?
 
D

dickyjj

New member
Joined
Jun 5, 2008
Messages
3
So you assume too much responsibility in a way. Do you think that when something goes wrong you're proving to yourself that it would go wrong if you were in control?
to be honest i'm not entirely sure.. i know thats not of any help .. sorry
 
KP1

KP1

Well-known member
Founding Member
Joined
Apr 4, 2008
Messages
1,500
Perhaps its a fear that you yourself are going to loose control.
Maybe you should see your Gp for advice as it is obviously causing you concern.
And welcome to the forum.
 
D

Dollit

Guest
If I'm in a situation that maybe I'm not quite sure of then I will try to be the one in control. At least in my own head. That gives me the feeling at least that do have some say at what's going on. I do that to feel secure. I don't have to do it in my own environment or among friends because I already feel secure.

People try to regain control in a lot of ways - abusing their relationship with food, alcohol, drug abuse. We all try to control things to make ourselves feel better, it's when it gets out of control that we lose the control we seek. I lost control for a long time.

If you go to the home page of the forum there's a tab that says "Getting Help" and in there are the contact details for MIND. Perhaps a chat with someone there might help you see things more clearly? Good luck and keep posting.
 
Similar threads
Thread starter Title Forum Replies Date
Scott Chegg Advice needed!! Is my boss being unreasonable? Mental Health Experiences 8
B Tourette’s Ptsd constant feeling of being scared Mental Health Experiences 1
Feeniks Not good at being human Mental Health Experiences 9
I undiagnosed and cant take being invalidated anymore (TW:self harm, suicide attempts, blood, mentions of emotional abuse + neglect and physical abuse) Mental Health Experiences 1
Daybreak Are there advantages to being mentally ill? Mental Disorder Superpowers Mental Health Experiences 24
F How do I cope with being stupid? Mental Health Experiences 22
hORIzonFINK210 (Was blog15) People are being very cold Mental Health Experiences 2
Muddledmuggle I hate myself for being touchy Mental Health Experiences 9
TooMuchPain The shitty part of being alone Mental Health Experiences 10
TooMuchPain I seriously can't handle being around people anymore. Mental Health Experiences 14
Amelia2020 Is being a shopaholic considered normal Mental Health Experiences 5
hORIzonFINK210 (Was blog15) being apart of people is interaction Mental Health Experiences 1
StrugglingToForget Rejection... how do you deal with not being liked? Mental Health Experiences 3
C I am tired of being happy Mental Health Experiences 4
unseen Being overly harsh and critical of oneself Mental Health Experiences 14
hORIzonFINK210 (Was blog15) being emphasised for the first time Mental Health Experiences 4
L Trigger!! Partner blaming me for him being offf work due to my mental health!! Mental Health Experiences 13
F Being bullied. How can I move on from this? Mental Health Experiences 5
I A mix of mental issues being 22 Mental Health Experiences 1
G Being a narcissistic bulimic asshole Mental Health Experiences 4
A Being conscious moment to moment feels painful Mental Health Experiences 5
R I don’t see the point in being a kind or hardworking person. Mental Health Experiences 14
S Being manipulated? Mental Health Experiences 18
O Am I incapable of being an adult? Whats wrong with me? Mental Health Experiences 11
T Dreading appointment/not being listened to Mental Health Experiences 40
B Being highly paranoid about people close to me Mental Health Experiences 11
A Drawer being deprived Mental Health Experiences 5
B Why do people say you are toxic for not being perfect? Mental Health Experiences 7
A Am I being gaslighted by my mum? Mental Health Experiences 4
Carol1952 Insecure and being sensitive .people just dont seem to get Mental Health Experiences 15
T Mind being read 24/7 against will Mental Health Experiences 5
K Why are some of us comfortable being miserable? Mental Health Experiences 20
Carol1952 Being a child isnt so easy Mental Health Experiences 2
W Sick of being stuffed in the head Mental Health Experiences 2
D Being diagnosed as borderline peesonality disorder crap Mental Health Experiences 12
B Social Security disability Mental Illness & Being Judged for it. Mental Health Experiences 12
LORD BURT Do you think being highly intelligent with a MH condition threatens people? Mental Health Experiences 3
J I feel like my problems are being minimized by my doctors... Mental Health Experiences 4
Pocket Being consumed with feelings of transference towards therapist Mental Health Experiences 1
A Easier being sick and suffering? Mental Health Experiences 3
fazza Fear of being hurt Mental Health Experiences 6
S Help with being triggered Mental Health Experiences 10
A Being on JSA i am so ashamed :( Mental Health Experiences 79
C Ah ah ah ah my food is being drugged Mental Health Experiences 4
S Many women disqualify me in dating solely for being virgin Mental Health Experiences 106
S Adapting to being single for life Mental Health Experiences 14
B Being pushed away by Girlfriend who has Depression - with no idea on what to do.... Mental Health Experiences 1
K Being social Mental Health Experiences 6
elliepaige20 Sick of being walked all over all the time... Mental Health Experiences 18
T Am I being a terrible "friend"? (Long Read) Mental Health Experiences 2

Similar threads

Top