Befrienders

bulbie

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So I've done it. I've found a befriending service, and I've contacted them, just got to wait for a reply now. Meeting a new person - I'm terrified! What do you all think of a befriending service for people with depression and anxiety?:scared:
 
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Congrats! I keep thinking about it, but then get scared and never go through with it.

When I was 'stable' I looked into volunteering to do it, but opted for the RSPCA instead as I didn't want to let someone down if I had a bad day.

My Aunt has had great success with her friend, he has struggled with depression and agoraphobia too, and he got my aunt, who would only go out to go to the drs, into tesco to do the weeks shopping. He also takes her to the bank and things now too. They are complete opposites he loves rock, indie etc and is 25, she prefers reggae, soca and dancehall and is 50, but they get on really well.

I hope you have as much success as she did x
 
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I work as a Befriender where I go to service users home and help to support them. It can work a lot and is a very rewarding role. It's nice to be able to have someone to support and believe in you. Having a good caring and lovely person to befriend you is the best.
 
bulbie

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Thanks coffee and Katie. I have no friends anymore, they all disappeared years ago when my heath started getting worse and worse. So I think this would be good for me, especially if they can send them out to my house. I just feel really lonely and isolated, and need to see a real person's face from time to time...
 
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Well done bulbie - I reckon that is a good step in the right direction - I had a care support worker who I used to go for walks and coffee with - she was lovely, unfortunately my d.b.t started and was on the same day so I don;t see her anymore. I hope t works out great for you

KS
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bulbie

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Me too - I'm tired of being in this hole. All I had was the bf to get me out of the house and now he's gone there's nothing.
 
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There are good ones in Glasgow , Glasgow, association for mental health run one, I think they are good, gets you out,
sorted out things with my key worker he is actually a great caring guy, management working him to hard, he apologized to me
strain of work, his colleague off ill he is covering their clients
 
bulbie

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I'm hoping I find them useful. No boyfriend anymore, no friends anymore, no job. I'm in the pits.
 
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Sorry you are feeling in the pits bulbie - perhaps this is the lift you need. *KS SCOOPS UP BULBIE AND LIFTS TO THE SKY* you don;t deserve to be in the pits
xx
 
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bulbie you will make friends and find a better boy friend you are a caring funny person and I thank you for your concern
 
bulbie

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Thanks for that. I seem to be attracted to narcissists. That can't be healthy.
 
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I've had some bunny boilers in my time I am very lucky I have a great lady
 
boomer lunar

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Bulbie, good for you taking a step to aid in your own recovery. We unfortunatly don't have befrienders here in the states its the 1st I've heard of such a thing, its a great idea. At first I thought you were talking about online dating, funny I know.
 
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becky1989

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Hey

It's true having a befriender is easier. If you don't feel like going out they can see you and talk to you in your home. It's nice to have some company just to talk. Good luck!
 
bulbie

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Thanks, guys. Yep dela you are lucky... Sometimes I think I will never be married.
 
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Bulbie any news on the befriender thing, I'm really curious about it as we don't have it here in the states.
 
bulbie

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No boomer, I haven't heard anything yet, if I don't have an email back by the morning, I'll get my carer to call up.
 
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Had an email back, he wants my contact details so he can discuss my options with me. If they don't cover my area he says he can point me in the direction of someone who does.
 
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cfb107

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Hey guys

Can you please explain what this befriending thing is?

Is it all over the uk??

How does one find out about it?

Sounds great but I have never heard of it!!