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Been fighting for 20 years now

Ricky Bobby

Ricky Bobby

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Apr 23, 2020
Hi everybody,

I'm a 39 year old man and if you'd walked past on my on a sidewalk you'd probably do your best not to bump into me. I was given the looks of a burly badass but sprinkled with crippling depression, just to make things interesting.

The first time I've seen a psychiatrist was at the age of 19. They were pretty loose with the meds and I was put on antidepressants then and there.

It's fair to say that up to that point, nothing bad has yet happened to me. Fast forward a few years and, within a year and a half) I loose the only parent I had, my fiance (break up), I lose my job and the private company I start after that goes under.

Stuff happens and I didn't really feel anything "crippling" in the midst of all that. I was just fighting. There was apparently still some juice in my brain.

It's only when I started a successful business and could relax a bit that I broke to pieces. I was officially clinically depressed. It's been a daily battle ever since - my therapist of 8 years says that that I am the single case most resistant to antidepressant she's ever treated.

Where I am today - about 7 months ago I started a relationship with this nice girl. I'm trying to somehow keep it together but all of the patterns of a serious depression episode are here again. I know what most of you will say to this but I'm trying to hide it because she's extremely scared of it. I could tell the first time I told her about it and the one or two times I mentioned it since.

On top of that, my business is pretty much in the gutter. It's not about the depression, it's just come Covid-related stuff that changed the industry I'm in. That's not the worst part when it comes to work - I've pulled myself out by the bootstraps before, but this time it's different. My brain is just not there - I'm flat-lining every time I try to do something.

I have what I believe to be a practical approach to depression. For about 10 years now, I think that I haven't experienced real joy. And I got used to it. Every day is a conscious effort and a battle and I got away with it until now, mostly because I managed to grow a business that brings an almost passive income. It's been a long time since I had to do anything demanding.

Bottom line - this is the first time my depression is threatening my very livelihood and existence.

As I said, I try to have a practical approach to these things so I'll be asking some specific questions in separate threads.

It's a relief to say stuff and know it won't fall on deaf ears.
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