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Banter Or Bullying?

MarlieeB

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If you have been watching I'm a celeb on ITV and also live in Britain you would of seen two people having "Banter" Jimmy Bullard is first I'm A Celeb casualty after bullying Jake Quickenden | Daily Mail Online

Whether it was or not or whether it was edited to make one person look bad to get the votes turned in a certain way (which we all knows happen) we will never know.

What are peoples opinion about so called banter. Personally it can be quite lighthearted but very quickly can turn into bullying, sometimes with the person doing it knowing and sometimes without them knowing it.

The place where I work has a lot of Banter, quite a lot, we have some very strong characters and there is a couple of people who actually bully and try to say it's banter.

So, what are other peoples perception?

[video]https://www.truetube.co.uk/film/banter-or-bullying[/video] I have watched the video myself and it contains nothing upsetting.

Office bullying- employment lawyers- Landau Law

What about “the banter excuse”?

A lot of managers use the “banter excuse” as a defence to bullying especially in industries where banter is commonplace- such as the finance and banking sector. Banter is all well and good and an employee cannot complain whilst they are a party to it. It is a different matter however, where someone crosses the line and makes it personal to the obvious distress of the recipient of the banter. In those circumstances, the banter can turn into a case of bullying and harassment. It is not always clear where the line is drawn, but if the employee makes it clear that the other person has gone too far- that is a sensible starting point as to whether that banter has then crossed the line.
 
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Helena1

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i am sure it is very common in families.
 
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If the banter is aimed solely at one person and is constant then I would class it as bullying, if the banter is spread out to more than one person then it's just banter, picking on one particular person is not good.
 
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Oh I missed this thread when it was posted.

I actually liked Jimmy. I do think however he really liked to be centre of attention and I think that, at times, made him a bit outrageous.
I watched the show and I think it was edited to make him look bad. Jake didn't seem too bothered, I think he just didn't have much energy and was a bit too tired to be having that kind of chat.

I do however think that the only person who can truly say whether or not something is bullying or "banter" (or whatever) is the person who the comments are aimed at.
If someone is offended, then it's up to the other person to apologise.
Be humble, say you're sorry - don't try to blame the person who is upset for taking it the wrong way, because that's a complete arsehole thing to do.
 

MarlieeB

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I also really liked Jimmy and agree that he was edited badly. He was what kept me watching it as he would bring a massive smile to my face with what he did. I was gutted he was out first, I really thought he would win.
 
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Hi.
Just seen this post. I have had a problem with this at various times in my life. I was a very humorous type of person, and love to make people laugh, Ive been told in the past I really make people giggle. I was always conscious that I would never cross the line with my 'banter' , having been bullied I was very conscious of that..the problem is, when you are funnyand enjoy a bit of humour there can be a lot of people who start to have 'banter with you and it's amazing how many go totally across the line, and think being funny is making fun of people...lots of people don't know the difference...it then gets really awful, well in my case it did, because I would dread seeing these people...they just did not know when to draw the line....
I had a melt down 18 months ago and now I just don't really bother with people for many reasons, but one of the main reasons for some of those people is, I've changed , and if they started doing their 'banter' on me, I couldn't cope with it at all now, it would trigger me..
Sorry I went on a bit there, but it's one of the major reasons for not wanting to socialise for me now....
 
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