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gurl2134

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I keep having bad thoughts about how I only want to please my boyfriends dad that I don’t actually love him or want to be with him. But I know that’s not true, I care a lot about him. If I didn’t I wouldn’t worry about him. I just need reassurance about it all. But I know my boyfriend is my everything I want to marry him one day and I want to keep him forever.
 
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AnxiousHan

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The reason you keep having this thought is because it’s not true, you no it’s not true but it’s upsetting you. If you thought it true you still would be able to choose whether to act it out or not. But you have said it’s not.
therefore, you know it’s not true. You aren’t going to be with him or please him. You are probably worrying about this more because the person you actually want to please and love is your boyfriend. And you are afraid you will hurthim. And because your worried about it the more likely you are you won’t. I don’t know if this makes sense but I trust that you won’t you need to trust yourself and don’t even let the what if sentences finish in your head x
 
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gurl2134

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I meant to say boyfriend not My boyfriends dad
 
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gurl2134

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But thank you so very much
 
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