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Oscar7

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Going through a real bout of depression and anxiety. Feel like i've lost some of my friends as they havent been speaking to me very much lately. I said to one last week about killing myself and they kind of just brushed it off as me being dramatic and got a bit annoyed and told me not to say things like that because they know people that have actually commited suicide. I'm scared about talking to people as I feel a burden and don't want them thinking i'm attention seeking.

Joined this forum so at least I have some sort of outlet for it. Just constantly worried, constantly up and down in mood. Been on antidepressants for a while now and at first they seemed to work but now i'm just in a dark place.
 
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Hi Oscar7.

I know how you feel. I joined yesterday, and already feel a little at ease knowing that I'm not alone with the way I feel or what I've been through in life.

I kind of do the same thing. People I though I was really close with, we would chat all the time (moved away recently so it's all electronic). Soon, the chatting just became less and less. I felt like, maybe I'm burdening them with my problems? Some of them didn't like what I had to say about my pain.

The sad thing is, some people who say they will listen or help, it's just words to them. Mainly, because they can't understand what you are going through. You can pick that up if they become emotional or impatient when you tell them how you feel. But there are people that will sit and listen to you. Don't ever think that you are being dramatic. If you were complaining about a splinter in your finger non-stop, that is being dramatic. But these are your feelings, your pain. Also, it kind of sounds like your friends are a little full of themselves. Sorry, but that is how I feel. Telling someone you are close to that you have thoughts about killing yourself and they brush it off? That's low. And that just means how little they care. And if they knew people who killed themselves, all the more shocking that they would not take you serious. Don't get me wrong. I actually knew someone who phoned me at 2 in the morning, saying they were thinking about suicide. I rushed to get there and all this person wanted was to have a drinking buddy. I was FURIOUS.

Sometimes the friends you have aren't the friends you need. I think, maybe the fact that you have little contact with your friends is not such a bad thing. Not saying you shouldn't still be friends with them. But perhaps you need to join a support group as well? Face to face talks. It's always good when you're around people that feel the same way you do, but all of you are there to lift each other up.

Sorry, got a little angry there about your friend/s.

Anyway, stay safe. Should your thoughts turn to the darkness of death, talk to someone. Even if it is on the forum. And if your medication isn't working then I think it's time to go see a doctor again.
 
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Oscar7

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Hi, Thanks very much for your kind reply.

My friends are supportive but I think they just thought I was making a scene and not really serious if you know what I mean?

Yea, kind of same as me, this forum does provide a little escape and somewhere I can say everything.

Sorry to hear you suffer from the same kind of thing. I know i'm a stranger but sometimes that can be easier, if you ever need anyone to talk to (or rant to or whatever!) then i'm here.

Many thanks
 
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