[B]Recluse[B]

Palladian

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I've become seriously reclusive. I moved to wales in 2010 and find meeting people really difficult. I went to college and the only people I met there took drugs. I have a history of drug abuse. Admitted to hospital with drugs psychosis staying away from drugs is a must. Being english makes me feel different to everyone else. Drop in groups seem to be filled with people who are a lot older than me.

Any advice on how to get out more and socialise?




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"Drop in groups", "get out more and socialise", "staying away from drugs is a must" - have you tried AA or NA?
 
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I did try at the drop in group near me most people there are really old though. I live in a rural isolated area in Wales and the population age is pensioner. I do stay away from drugs at the moment - since I left college due to my illness.
NA and AA? Well I went to a local help centre because when I left college I started drinking a lot. I've stopped drinking and don't take drugs. I just have an addictive personality and I'm afraid that if and when I start socialising I'll start taking drugs again.
 
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I guess it depends where you socialise.

For me personally, i had to really want to stop.
 
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I do really want to stop, I have stopped, I'm just worried that when I do get out more I'll start again or rather that when I meet people they'll be taking drugs and I'll feel I need to do the same.

There isn't many places to socialise round here. There is a local place that plays live music I should go there - I just feel so paranoid.
 
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Hmm try clubs and societies, often rural places have some of these. The village where I used to live had an old man who used to be a wine importer who ran a wine appreciation club which was a lot of fun.
 
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Hmm try clubs and societies, often rural places have some of these. The village where I used to live had an old man who used to be a wine importer who ran a wine appreciation club which was a lot of fun.
I'm going to try this place near me that plays live music & maybe do a 4 week photography course at the local college. Thanks :loveshower:
 
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I haven't left the house for a few days now and I haven't been washing either I feel so lazy. I'm starting to develop an up all night asleep all day sleep pattern to. My mum's ill and I have to go out tomorrow to get some shopping. I don't even know what day it is. I keep forgetting to take my meds. I don't know what to do.
Help.
 
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i use a weekly pill box for meds. its the only way I can remember. Otherwise i would forget or take too many.
 
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I went out today. The first time in about 4 days. I only did a bit of shopping. I had to their was no food in the house. My mum's ill so I bought her ferrero rocher. I had a panini and bought some beers (naughty naughty). I
feel pretty good now I'm nice and clean.
The next time I go out will probably be wednesday when I have to goto the estate agents. I'm moving house soon and also going to an open day at the university of oxford. I'm really looking forward to it. Though I hope I haven't overdone it with moving house as well as a big journey.
 
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I'm seriously concerned about my reclusive behaviour. I just can't think what to do? There's some lovely countryside around here I just need to get on a bus to enjoy it. I'm scared and paranoid, my life is rubbish - to put it mildly. I do nothing - I used to read avidly I was in love with architecture. Now I don't read and do little art. Loss of motivation isn't new to me though before at least dancing kept me going out.
 
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I went out today. The first time in about 4 days. I only did a bit of shopping. I had to their was no food in the house. My mum's ill so I bought her ferrero rocher. I had a panini and bought some beers (naughty naughty). I
feel pretty good now I'm nice and clean.
The next time I go out will probably be wednesday when I have to goto the estate agents. I'm moving house soon and also going to an open day at the university of oxford. I'm really looking forward to it. Though I hope I haven't overdone it with moving house as well as a big journey.
Nice one on getting out and about, Palladian :)
 
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Are you moving to a less remote area? I live in a small village, but do some walking and cycling. The chap who runs the local pub leads two cycle rides every Saturday, one of ten miles and one of thirty. I would have thought there were some lovely walks in rural Wales but it would be a question of finding a local walking group. Glad things are improving for you!
 
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I live in a really quiet village and there is nothing to do here but there are nice walks. Getting out for walks is good. I just like to get out and escape from myself for a bit, listen to the birds and look at the countryside. Although I do admit I find it difficult to do on my own as I feel paranoid. I also feel tired and lack motivation/feel depressed a lot so I do understand how difficult it can be.