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Avoidant personality with dependence, anxiety and low self esteem



New member
Jan 13, 2020
Hi all,

My first topic on the forum. As you can figure out from the heading, its pretty straight forward. I have been struggling with my personality issues since teenage. Made friends but lost them because they decided to ditch me as time went by or I could not do enough to hold on to them. I'm 28 right now and I feel pretty down because of this. At 28 , I do not have close friends or sometimes even friends I can talk to and go about my day. This has created a toxic belief system in me about myself that I'm not good enough or I lack something. Does anyone feel or have similar stuff going on? I have lot of things to share, but don't want to overburden it all in the first post.


Well-known member
Jan 5, 2011
Hiya and welcome to the forum. You do have a lot to deal with don't you? Its all so much stress and struggle for you. What happens when you make a friendship? Do you then avoid them and lose them that way?

I don't think you lack something. I think more people than care to admit it have trouble making friends and coping with anxiety. It is a destructive MH condition and leads to fears about everything. Have you ever tried therapy to get to the bottom of what is wrong with you? I think it could really help.