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Charliedragonfly
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hi, just a small post about how I'm feeling.
my social anxiety isn't getting better, it's getting worse. i often freeze up when trying to do things like order coffee. i notice that i absent-mindedly convince myself that strangers on social media/in public, people who have never and will never know me, won't like me. i desperately need to find a job but i know, because of autism and anxiety, i wouldn't cope in public for so long without having a panic attack or a meltdown.
I'm so stuck in this rut and i have absolutely no idea in which direction i should step. i didn't last in therapy long enough to find useful coping skills; only enough to learn how much my self-destructive behaviour hurts people and that when i stop showing any symptoms of my conditions, people are less worried about me. i try to help myself and learn about how to cope with anxiety, but nothing seems to help me when i don't know how to initiate a conversation with someone even if i wanted to. i have no idea what's too formal, informal, friendly or cold, or if i'm being boring, talking too much, looking at them too much or too little, etc. i feel so uncomfortable in public, and i must feel comfortable before i can address my social anxiety.
life is scary. if you have any ideas on things i could work on and how, please let me know! thank you
my social anxiety isn't getting better, it's getting worse. i often freeze up when trying to do things like order coffee. i notice that i absent-mindedly convince myself that strangers on social media/in public, people who have never and will never know me, won't like me. i desperately need to find a job but i know, because of autism and anxiety, i wouldn't cope in public for so long without having a panic attack or a meltdown.
I'm so stuck in this rut and i have absolutely no idea in which direction i should step. i didn't last in therapy long enough to find useful coping skills; only enough to learn how much my self-destructive behaviour hurts people and that when i stop showing any symptoms of my conditions, people are less worried about me. i try to help myself and learn about how to cope with anxiety, but nothing seems to help me when i don't know how to initiate a conversation with someone even if i wanted to. i have no idea what's too formal, informal, friendly or cold, or if i'm being boring, talking too much, looking at them too much or too little, etc. i feel so uncomfortable in public, and i must feel comfortable before i can address my social anxiety.
life is scary. if you have any ideas on things i could work on and how, please let me know! thank you