
shaky
Well-known member
Hi,
Maybe I'm uttering a heresy here, but what is wrong with attention seeking? Why does it seem to be the only inexcusable sin?
A couple of years ago I was in a wonderful relationship, but my girlfriend left me. Since then I have felt more and more alone, as if I didn't matter or exist. Since I can't seem to get the love I crave my second best hope is to get some attention from someone, anyone - just to prove that I exist, that I matter in the world. What is so wrong with that?
Unfortunately, even though I have lots of friends, they don't, or are incapable of, listening to all the thoughts that run through my head, so I start to act in perhaps strange ways to get some attention. It scares me a bit, but if no-one notices me, if I am the invisible man, what is the point to life at all. I might as well not exist if I don't get any attention!
So surely attention seeking is just an expression of the pain I am in, similar to the self-harm I do? Why is attention seeking seen as so bad when it's just a lonely guy looking for love?
Shaky
Maybe I'm uttering a heresy here, but what is wrong with attention seeking? Why does it seem to be the only inexcusable sin?
A couple of years ago I was in a wonderful relationship, but my girlfriend left me. Since then I have felt more and more alone, as if I didn't matter or exist. Since I can't seem to get the love I crave my second best hope is to get some attention from someone, anyone - just to prove that I exist, that I matter in the world. What is so wrong with that?
Unfortunately, even though I have lots of friends, they don't, or are incapable of, listening to all the thoughts that run through my head, so I start to act in perhaps strange ways to get some attention. It scares me a bit, but if no-one notices me, if I am the invisible man, what is the point to life at all. I might as well not exist if I don't get any attention!
So surely attention seeking is just an expression of the pain I am in, similar to the self-harm I do? Why is attention seeking seen as so bad when it's just a lonely guy looking for love?
Shaky