- Mar 9, 2020
- United Kingdom
That message made me cry a little but in a good way. It's staring the problem in face and I can't appreciate enough the time you're taken to listen to me and my problems. I have tried to google OCD but like yourself sometimes I don't fit in but ROCD is something I relate with. I am sorry you experience these thoughts aswell. Thank you so much for this advice and again I will be re-reading this message over and over xNow look at the words you chose to describe him.
- he knows you worry to much
- he doesn’t know how to help you but tries
- he’s amazing
- I can’t appreciate him enough
These thoughts make you feel good and aren’t alarming so you accept them.
You aren’t mauling these thoughts over in your head and have come to accept & appreciate them.
You are focussed on the ‘one’ thought that has you scared which is not only harming you but your relationship ONLY because you are reacting to it.
Not all thoughts that enter our minds are true and if we entertain all thoughts as true, we would live in perpetual fear . Luckily not all of them are true.
You just happen to latch onto this thought and have become obsessed with it. Of course your boyfriend can’t help you since you have deemed him as the problem so have made the decision to push him away. It’s only logical that this would add more stress to your relationship.
I suffer with this disorder or type of obsessive thinking and it’s destructive. My man can shower me with gifts, do many acts of kindness and let me know how much he cares for me while I’m stuck on the fact that he hasn’t shaven that day. The more I think about it the more it distracts me.
Seeking out things that are wrong can become a really unhealthy habit with devastating consequences. Something I suggest is to look up obsessive compulsive negative thinking.
Looking up OCD itself might be helpful but I never accepted this as a problem I had because I was looking for repetitive ‘actions,’ ( like handwashing or checking the locked door) not realizing that those repetitive actions ALL start out as respective thoughts first.