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Hello everyone, this is my first post.

I've been seeing a pyschologist for generalized anxiety disorder and have started taking medication for it, but I still really struggle badly in social situations.

Tonight, I was discussing this with my psychologist and she believes my experiences align with aspergers/sensory overload.

I'm very sensitive to noise, touch (in fact, I wouldn't allow anyone to touch me from a young child to basically early 20s, including my own parents) and smell. I don't know if this connects to my social issues or not.

What happens when I'm at a busy social event (eg a wedding, partu, xmas) is I become extremely tired, to the point of feeling like I just need to prop my eyes up with a toothpick. Its like being a deer in the headlights, I just try to struggle through the bare minimum of just being there and its torture. I feel like my body shuts down. Conversely in a small group environment its fine. My pyschologist doesn't believe this is anxiety, as this would be more fight or flight, racing heart etc.

From my online research I really don't connect to the aspergers traits aside from feeling painfully awkward and exhausted in social settings. I'm highly empathetic, in fact worry too much about what people think of me. I have no problem with eye contact, and most of the other traits just didnt ring true.
I'm not asking for an online diagnosis, just getting it all out I think. I'm also very curious and interested to hear if anyone else with social anxiety experiences this extreme tiredness in social situations?
 
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If you're sensitive to noise/touch etc then this aligns with autistic traits. I can say this because my daughter has ASD (Aspergers) and has similar issues. We can't touch her at all, although I'm not sure if this an autistic thing, or more about her contamination anxiety.
We went to see an Imax movie, and had to exit the cinema because she couldn't stand the level of noise
These things are related and ASD/Social anxiety have common behavioural traits.
 
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Thanks for the response! Does she become extremely tired?
 
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No just really anxious. Incidentally I also have social anxiety, and I find social situations extremely draining mentally. It does make me a bit tired, and I end up just wanting to get out.
 
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I'm currently being assessed for asbergers at 22 after years of a social anxiety diagnosis and failed treatment, I too get social exhaustion after a social situation it feels as if I have run a marathon and not slept for days, that and the sensory issues do sound like autistic traits, I hope you get the help you need 😊
 
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I'm currently being assessed for asbergers at 22 after years of a social anxiety diagnosis and failed treatment, I too get social exhaustion after a social situation it feels as if I have run a marathon and not slept for days, that and the sensory issues do sound like autistic traits, I hope you get the help you need 😊
Good luck! I hope your assessment helps you in getting the correct support.

I have an appointment with my pyschologist early december, I'm feeling very confused about it all. Aside from the social exhaustion and sensory sensitivities, the other markers for ASD really don't ring true for me, and I'm in a line of work which requires me to work closely with others and communicate. It's specifically large group settings that seem to trigger this. Where I live, the process for assessment would be very costly. I don't know if having a label is necessary, but I'd like to understand whats happening and be using the most appropriate strategies to cope.
 
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Hello everyone, this is my first post.

I've been seeing a pyschologist for generalized anxiety disorder and have started taking medication for it, but I still really struggle badly in social situations.

Tonight, I was discussing this with my psychologist and she believes my experiences align with aspergers/sensory overload.

I'm very sensitive to noise, touch (in fact, I wouldn't allow anyone to touch me from a young child to basically early 20s, including my own parents) and smell. I don't know if this connects to my social issues or not.

What happens when I'm at a busy social event (eg a wedding, partu, xmas) is I become extremely tired, to the point of feeling like I just need to prop my eyes up with a toothpick. Its like being a deer in the headlights, I just try to struggle through the bare minimum of just being there and its torture. I feel like my body shuts down. Conversely in a small group environment its fine. My pyschologist doesn't believe this is anxiety, as this would be more fight or flight, racing heart etc.

From my online research I really don't connect to the aspergers traits aside from feeling painfully awkward and exhausted in social settings. I'm highly empathetic, in fact worry too much about what people think of me. I have no problem with eye contact, and most of the other traits just didnt ring true.
I'm not asking for an online diagnosis, just getting it all out I think. I'm also very curious and interested to hear if anyone else with social anxiety experiences this extreme tiredness in social situations?
Aspergers tend not to care what people think of them and often behave and say things that are socially unacceptable or against what is the social norm.
Social anxiety sufferers tends to care too much of what others thinks of them which makes them appear weak and wanting acceptance too much. Often extremely self-conscious as well.
Psychiatric diagnosis are not set in stone like physical disease diagnosis are because there are no blood tests and often no x-rays to confirm them.

Many people confuse these two diagnoses but I think it's mostly the socially anxious who are offended when they are mistaken for Asperger and not vice versa.
If you believe you have social anxiety, you might be correct.
However, what's more important is the treatment, would the diagnosis affect your choice of treatment?
 
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Aspergers tend not to care what people think of them and often behave and say things that are socially unacceptable or against what is the social norm.
Social anxiety sufferers tends to care too much of what others thinks of them which makes them appear weak and wanting acceptance too much. Often extremely self-conscious as well.
Psychiatric diagnosis are not set in stone like physical disease diagnosis are because there are no blood tests and often no x-rays to confirm them.

Many people confuse these two diagnoses but I think it's mostly the socially anxious who are offended when they are mistaken for Asperger and not vice versa.
If you believe you have social anxiety, you might be correct.
However, what's more important is the treatment, would the diagnosis affect your choice of treatment?
That's a good summary.
 
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Well I can't stand my belly button being touched and when women have touched me in the past its ticklish and I'm easily tickled so I guess its part of my autism too.
 
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Well I can't stand my belly button being touched and when women have touched me in the past its ticklish and I'm easily tickled so I guess its part of my autism too.
I hate my belly button being touched too! And my nipples, much to husbands dismay.
 
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I hate my belly button being touched too! And my nipples, much to husbands dismay.
I don't mind my nipples being touched as long as its a woman touching them but in the cold they can get hard and rub on my tee shirt if it has a print on it and it hurts when that happens :(
 
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